Mom thinks there shouldn't be a shower...

jdlocke

Thanks to BIL and wife, DH and I have recieved a lot of hand-me-down baby items, which we greatly appreciate. I asked my mom about a shower today, and she said that I shouldn't have one becuase of all the things we have gotten. Unfortunately, we haven't gotten everything, such as travel system, PNP, safety gate, monitor, tub, and other safety items. I think there is a total of 50 things on our registry. I was also hoping for a book collection for LO. It just seems like my mom doesn't want me to celebrate with my friends and family. What would you do?

 

P.S. my best friend, whom is in the Navy, said she would help me. I just have to wait till Oct. 24 to have the shower!

ablou

Tell her exactly what you just told us.  

coquina

Talk with your MIL or Friends and see if one of them will host one for you. That way your mom can just be invited and you can still get the new items needed for your little one.

liv97

yeah, if your mom doesn't want to host one, not much you can do.  maybe someone else can?

ibis

I'd tell her you'd still like to have the experience of a baby shower, and if she doesn't want to host it that's fine, but you would love to have one.

ESD_0707

Why wouldn't you get a shower?!  I agree with pp - tell her what you typed in this post.  Showers are more than just gifts - they are a fun way to celebrate your baby's upcoming big entrance into the world with friends and loved ones.  I hope you get to have one!

S/Cambio

I agree, just tell her what you just told us. Since this is your first baby I think you should have a shower! Even if it's just a small one

schen0510

My mother passed away 7 years ago so I started discussing this with my MIL.  She is Asian and they do not have baby showers...they have a party when the babies are born.  So, I went to my sister, who is only 21 and in college and she said she would love to.  She has since contacted a couple of my close friends and they are throwing my shower.  I am sure my MIL will attend but she would prefer to leave the planning to someone else and throw the "1 month" party after they are born.  There is always someone that would be more than happy to throw a party for you!

purlgurl

Every first time mom should have a shower. It is a chance to celebrate the baby with friends and family.?

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MamaMandaW

purlgurl:

Every first time mom should have a shower. It is a chance to celebrate the baby with friends and family. 

 

Personally I think every EXPECTING mom should have a shower, every baby should be celebrated..

kryssy

You should definitely have a shower, but I'm thinking that maybe your mom doesn't want to be the one throwing it? 

Let your best friend host.

kelliwill

purlgurl:

Every first time mom should have a shower. It is a chance to celebrate the baby with friends and family. 

 

This and I think if she doesn't want to host it then maybe a friend can or your MIL or someone else.  Do it and have fun!!  Enjoy!

chrystaleigh

You definitely should tell your mom how you feel. You deserve a shower, LO also deserves some new items for himself.

Brina Bean

jdlocke:

Unfortunately, we haven't gotten everything, such as travel system, PNP, safety gate, monitor, tub, and other safety items. I think there is a total of 50 things on our registry. I was also hoping for a book collection for LO. It just seems like my mom doesn't want me to celebrate with my friends and family.

I am sure you didn't mean to sound like you only want to have a shower because you haven't received all of the things you need, but that's how this part of what you wrote sounds(which might not come across well to your mom who seems to be focusing on the gift aspect).  I think baby showers are for celebrating with friends and family first; the gifts are secondary and shouldn't be expected.  If this is what you believe as well, then I wouldn't tell your mom the first part you told us(about the gifts), but that you were hoping for a chance to celebrate with her and your friends and family.  I hope everything works out for you!