argh!!! sisters piss me off. (vent)

Liss_37

 I don't have a relationship with my younger half sister (Sister A). We had a falling out when I first got pregnant and even though we are cordial to each other at family gatherings (when she actually shows up) we don't have any sort of attachment or relationship with each other and that's fine with both of us.

Well today another of my sisters (Sister calls me and says we're going to Ontario Place tomorrow do you want to go? I said I can't go because I'm not allowed to do a lot of walking and that would be a day of non stop walking anyway. Well I  find out later that my "Sister A" is going. It really pisses me off that "sister b" didn't tell me this when she extended the invite. if I had to spend an entire day walking around a park with "sister a" it would have been extremely uncomfortable for both of us.

I understand that "sister b" and "sister a" have a relationship but that doesn't mean that I have to have a relationship with her. There is a long history there and things are beyond repair. I just wish people would butt out and mind their own business. I don't need this  extra stress, especially while I'm pregnant. ugh.

RickeyandDani

Does Sister B know that you would react like this for her not letting you know? Maybe she didn't know you would have a problem like this with it.

star678

Sounds to me like Sister B thought she could play peacemaker.  I don't know the background but Sister B probably really dislikes it that you and Sister A are at odds. 

My brother and sister went for years hating each other, and it was really hard on me even though I wasn't involved. 

I am sure you have your reasons, but would it be out of the question to be civil enough to one another to be able to spend a day together, or not really?  (without the walking, of course)

mattandbekah

I have three sisters, so I can relate to disagreements, but are you sure you cant patch this up? She is, after all, your sister.  Also, I think its not unreasonable for Sister B to invite both of you and not feel like she has to mediate it or clear it with you both.  Maybe she underestimated how angry you actually are?

Mrs.Momma

i'm really not trying to snark, but do you think you're being a tad melodramatic? maybe i'm just too laid back, but getting that worked up about it seems like a silly waste of your energy. you're not going. she is. let it go. if you ahve a good relationship with sister b, i'm sure she wasn't trying to hurt you or anything.

Liss_37

it would be very hard to make it through an entire day being civil to each other if we had to spend it together with no way to be apart.. Ontario Place is like an amusement park so we would have had to spend it together all day or risk getting lost. if it was at a family members house or something where i could leave if i needed to or at least have other people to talk to it would have been alright.

she was definately trying to play peacemaker and i wish she wouldn't. she knows everything that went on, and she should know that reparing things won't be that easy.

MSC03

Maybe sister B doesn't think the drama is that big of a deal.

BratNat

Mrs.Momma:

i'm really not trying to snark, but do you think you're being a tad melodramatic? maybe i'm just too laid back, but getting that worked up about it seems like a silly waste of your energy. you're not going. she is. let it go. if you ahve a good relationship with sister b, i'm sure she wasn't trying to hurt you or anything.

Cheers to this!!!

savannahtus

Sister B may want everyone to be happy, maybe she doesnt want to piss you off by NOT inviting you to hang out when she invited sister A and vise versa.  It seems to me that this discrepancy between Sister A and yourself puts Sister B in a bad/awkward position.  I know it is really hard to deal with a sister that you are at odds with, I used to be in the same position.  But remember the pregnancy may affect your thinking sometimes...we tend to be quite hormonal! lol, but I do wish you luck! 

axr8111

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"it would be very hard to make it through an entire day being civil to each other if we had to spend it together with no way to be apart..."

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Really, you aren't both adult enough to be civil for one day?? This doesn't mean you have to suddenly bond with her but you would need to be mature. I think this is something you should work on before you have this baby. Not the relationship, but your maturity level.?

dtrigg

savannahtus:

Sister B may want everyone to be happy, maybe she doesnt want to piss you off by NOT inviting you to hang out when she invited sister A and vise versa.  It seems to me that this discrepancy between Sister A and yourself puts Sister B in a bad/awkward position.  I know it is really hard to deal with a sister that you are at odds with, I used to be in the same position.  But remember the pregnancy may affect your thinking sometimes...we tend to be quite hormonal! lol, but I do wish you luck! 

This. Also, maybe she invited sister A after she invited you and you said no?