vent-mom & weight gain

cindydee

Ok, out of curiousity I asked my mom how much weight she gained when she was pregnant with me & my 2 other sisters. Pre-preg she stated she was "just like me" which is 110 lbs pre preg (she's about 5'2 & I'm 5'5). Anyway, she said she only got to 125 or 130 lbs...which would mean she only gained 15-20 lbs. I call b*llsh*t. I'm almost 6months & already gained 10 lbs... it just bugs me when pple compare themselves to ur pregnancy. My doc said the norm for me would be a 30 lb weight gain.

My mom just annoyed me b/c she's a liar. haha maybe not a liar but something tells me her numbers were a little off.

vent over.

Liss_37

um.. you can't say it annoys you when people compare themselves to your pregnancy when you are the one who asked her about it. If it bothers you dont bring it up :P

jkfranklin

Why did you ask her if you didn't want to know her answer.  It doesn't sound like your mom did anything wrong.  Why are you venting about her?

beachykeen1723

cindydee:

Ok, out of curiousity I asked my mom how much weight she gained when she was pregnant with me & my 2 other sisters. Pre-preg she stated she was "just like me" which is 110 lbs pre preg (she's about 5'2 & I'm 5'5). Anyway, she said she only got to 125 or 130 lbs...which would mean she only gained 15-20 lbs. I call b*llsh*t. I'm almost 6months & already gained 10 lbs... it just bugs me when pple compare themselves to ur pregnancy. My doc said the norm for me would be a 30 lb weight gain.

My mom just annoyed me b/c she's a liar. haha maybe not a liar but something tells me her numbers were a little off.

vent over.

You asked... and she may not have gained that much- it doesn't mean you will or won't gain more.... I wouldn't compare yourself to your mom, or call her a liar, especially since you are 4 inches taller than her.

curlilocks1207

In all fairness...you did ask her how much she had gained.  She didn't just start in with a lecture comparing her pregnancy to yours. My mom only gained about 10 pounds while she was pregnant with my sister. I am pretty sure doctors didn't encourage women in that generation to gain the 25-35 pounds that is recommended now.

cindydee

her numbers dont sound right so yes that means she lied.

im not comparing myself to her. im just saying her numbers r wrong.

geez

Mrs.KLF

So...you asked her, but then you didn't like her answer and now you are venting?  And how do you know she's lying?  15-20 is perfectly normal for some people.

Weight gain in general is completely irrelevant, IMO, unless you are being unhealthy.  My mom is very tall and thin.  She gained 50 pounds when she was pregnant with me - she was eating very healthy and being active, it's just what her body needed.  And then, she walked out of the hospital in her pre-pregnancy jeans.  

LadyHollywood

I have to agree with the PPs.  And also, everyone is different with pregnancy.  Some gain 15, some gain 40!  How do you know she's lying?

Just remember, everyone is different,

cindydee

my mistake, I forgot weight gain vents, questions, comments or concerns r not welcomed on the bump... ooopsy!

star678

Mrs.KLF:

So...you asked her, but then you didn't like her answer and now you are venting?  And how do you know she's lying?  15-20 is perfectly normal for some people.

This!

kuzzu25

number one, you ASKED.  number two, I doubt she's lying.  It was common for OB's to tell people to only gain 15-20 pounds then.  That's the same thing my mom told me...15 pounds.  Everyone is different though, you can't compare just because you're related anyway.

jkfranklin

cindydee:

my mistake, I forgot weight gain vents, questions, comments or concerns r not welcomed on the bump... ooopsy!

It has nothing to do with the weight gain issue.  It's the issue with you venting about your mom criticizing you when she didn't.  You asked for her experience and she told you and then you got mad because that isn't what you wanted to hear because you are experiencing something different.

Phoebe Halliwell

Wait a minute... you asked your mom how much weight she gained during pregnancy and she answered you. Just because you didn't like her answer doesn't mean she was suddenly "comparing" her pregnancy to yours or somehow judging your current weight gain.

LadyHollywood

cindydee:

her numbers dont sound right so yes that means she lied.

im not comparing myself to her. im just saying her numbers r wrong.

geez

Ok, wait, let's read this sentance slowly...

"her numbers dont sound right"  (pause, take that part in) "so yes that means she lied."   (Ohhhhhhhh ok...  Right.  The numbers don't SOUND right so OF COURSE she LIED!)

jenny1980

You sound like a nutter. You asked her a question, get pissed that her pregnancy is being compared to yours, and then call her a liar.

Back in our mother's generation, it was not a standard recommendation to gain 25-35 lbs as it is today. It's entirely possible she only gained 15-20 lbs with each kid.

 

Jenice32

cindydee:

Ok, out of curiousity I asked my mom how much weight she gained when she was pregnant with me & my 2 other sisters. Pre-preg she stated she was "just like me" which is 110 lbs pre preg (she's about 5'2 & I'm 5'5). Anyway, she said she only got to 125 or 130 lbs...which would mean she only gained 15-20 lbs. I call b*llsh*t. I'm almost 6months & already gained 10 lbs... it just bugs me when pple compare themselves to ur pregnancy. My doc said the norm for me would be a 30 lb weight gain.

My mom just annoyed me b/c she's a liar. haha maybe not a liar but something tells me her numbers were a little off.

vent over.

Re-read what YOU wrote. She compared herself to you pre-pregnancy, tells you how much she gained, which is normal, and you go all apeshiit because you compare yourself to her and realized you have gained more. Are you calling her a liar because you've seen pregnancy pictures of her along with her medical history detailing her weight gain?

Girl, it's the 21st century. Unless you're eating organic, whole foods only, know that you are consuming more calories (due to the additives used in food production) than your mother did, which means you will gain more weight.

 

TUSBride22

::sniff sniff::

Is that a dd I smell?

Jen1231

My mom most likely only gained 10-15 with her four children.  She's really tiny to beging with, so it's possible.

Kathy02912

It wasn't all that long ago that women smoked through pregnancies and were put on diet pills if they gained more than 15 pounds.

Also, I can't accurately remember my weight gain and a lot of other important information I thought I'd never forget from my pregnancy with my toddler.

holly423

::butting in from 6-12::

I only gained 15-20 lbs during my pregnancy. Just because you don't want to hear it doesn't mean it is a lie.

Secondly, ladies in you mom's generation were discouraged from gaining a lot of weight while pg

Thirdly, that was a while ago for your mom, maybe she is off on her numbers, but it could just be she doesn't remember

Lastly, she wasn't comparing to you. YOU asked her.

Mrs.Momma

this post made me laugh. that is all.

Mstalls16

I'm not saying that your mom is lying or not, you'd know better than I would, but I know that my mom gained a similar amount with me, and even less with my brother. I think it was that era...when I talk with anyone my mom, grandmother, or aunts' age, they all had relatively small weight gains.

cindydee

yes im stubborn, im right all the time.

if ppl have issues wit weight posts y the heck do u click on em & read em & thennnn take the time to respond???

weird.

 

shelby9201

It's not the weight post that people are taking issue with.  It's your twist on how your mom "lied" and compared herself to you when it appears this is not the case at all.  I'm always up for some momma drama since mine is a bit cagey, but this post is not vent worthy IMO.

Prinycesa07

Nobody has a problem with the weight aspect.  Its just that you are complaining about being compared to your mom when YOU are the one who was doing the comparing.

 Not to mention, 10 lbs isn't much, you still may only gain 10 more and be at 20.

senoritaemily

cindydee:

yes im stubborn, im right all the time.

if ppl have issues wit weight posts y the heck do u click on em & read em & thennnn take the time to respond???

weird.

 

 

I don't think people are taking issue with this being a weight post. What's "weird" is that you asked your mom how much weight she gained and then got mad at her for telling you.

yourmom5309

No sweat mama - I know what you mean.  It's not that she told you her answer it is that her answer is wrong.  Moms can be difficult sometimes.  Mine has always had a semi-competitive attitude, so I can empathize to comments like your moms.  Take what everyone says with a grain of salt.  Only you were part of the converstaion, so if it bothered you that is your own buisness.

As a person whose mom is a one-upper, the comment would have frustrated me too.  NBR - I love the wedding picture - the netting is fabulous.

Jerseygirl16

Well, the guidelines for weight gain were different back then so she probably did gain that. And whatever the guidelines are I wouldn't assume her "numbers are off".  I only gained 13 pounds with DD #1 and 10 with DD #2.  Both were large girls (9 pounds 1 ounce and 8 pounds 11 ounces ) and had to be induced early because of it.  Everyone is different and everyone gains differently. 

Jerseygirl16

cindydee:

her numbers dont sound right so yes that means she lied.

im not comparing myself to her. im just saying her numbers r wrong.

geez

Why are you assuming her numbers are wrong?  15-20 doesn't sound like it's something made up at all.  She probably did gain that.  

Jerseygirl16

FWIW I am just about 6 feet tall and started the pregnancy weighing 161.  Now at 15 1/2 weeks I'm 155.  It will be a miracle if I even gain 15 pounds total this pregnancy and my doctors are not concerned at all.  I'm eating for way more than two at this point since I have two toddlers who keep me snacking all day between meals. 

I don't have any issues at all with weight posts on here and I don't think that is what anyone is objecting to.  It's calling your mom a liar when you didn't like her true answer that people are reacting to. 

louda99

Ladies,

Calm down!  Leave her alone.  So she wanted to say something - who cares about your opinion if it is going to be negative.  We all go through rough times etc and maybe more sensitive so be more supportive.  Just read and move on if you are going to be negative. 

 Sorry your mom lied... they do that sometimes  

m_n_mwedding

cindydee:

yes im stubborn, im right all the time.

if ppl have issues wit weight posts y the heck do u click on em & read em & thennnn take the time to respond???

weird.

 

m_n_mwedding

cindydee:

yes im stubborn, im right all the time.

if ppl have issues wit weight posts y the heck do u click on em & read em & thennnn take the time to respond???

weird.

I think what bugs me the most about this post is the lack of grammar! AHHHH holy spellcheck batman!

greycoral

This thread is silly.

 My mom gained 75!!! lbs with me, and 55 with my brother. I have gained 30 and am almost 22 weeks.