Don't you just LOVE judgement from the childless?

Bride2bMO

Sigh. An old friend stopped by yesterday and didn't do a very good job veiling her disapproval at various things. I actually planned to keep it a secret from her that I'm still breastfeeding at 16 months, because I know that despite other good qualities, she's judgey.

Poor DS was just pawing at my chest for a late afternoon snack and I was totally trying to play it off. "Hey silly! What are you doing? How about some yogurt melts?" And she finally just asked if he was still nursing and I wasn't going to actually lie about it. So in talking about "extended nursing" she somehow brings up  "The Last Emperor," remember that movie where the kid is breastfeeding from his wet nurse at like age 8 or 9? Yeah...cause that's the same.

She also asked whether he responds to timeouts -- and it was obvious that she thought he needed one at the moment. He was just running around the room laughing and screaming. Um, this does not bother me. We weren't in public, he was having fun, and he wasn't hurting anything. I save the time outs for dumping out the dog water bowl, that sort of thing. I figure you have to pick your battles with a toddler, so I really let him do his thing unless he's clearly causing a problem.

Dumb childless friend on her high horse. And she'll probably be blessed with an "easy" baby that won't knock her off of it. Grrr. 

MegGary

Gotta love them.

 A friend of mine who is pregnant with her 1st actually said to me that she doesn't want to spoil her kid like I do mine. Ummm and how do I spoil my DD? She said well whenever she cries you pick her up or attend to her so she stops crying. I said, really & what should I be doing? Letting her cry & ignore her? I told her, I won't be so hard on you. You'll learn soon enough how it works.

Dobie_Mama

What a BIZARRE first response to a still nursing 16 month old.  Totally the same thing as Puyi.  I don't know why I didn't think of it myself. lol

Bride2bMO

Dobie_Mama:

What a BIZARRE first response to a still nursing 16 month old.  Totally the same thing as Puyi.  I don't know why I didn't think of it myself. lol

I know! I should start saving money for his therapy, he's clearly going to need it what with all this inappropriate nursing stuff. 

I knew this day would come because one time she was over when he was 3 months old and he was asleep in my lap but kept nursing and she made the comment that "he would be a bear to wean someday." 

What can I say, the kid refused a pacifier his whole life. He likes boobs. A lot. 

jenifairies

i have one of those. well, her and dh are the worst. she's improved as she's been around dd and our other friends with kids, but he's still clueless. and they're starting to ttc. on one hand, i hope they have the wildest child and crankiest baby ever. on the other, i hope for the sake of their kid that it's chill. if he doesn't change his attitude, i really feel sorry for their child.

princess4u81

I had a friend like that. She is no longer my friend. All she did was put me down and the fact that I stay at home down every time she saw me. I don't talk to her anymore. I don't need someone like that in my life. I am still bfing at 16 months. I was going to let DD wean herself, but since I am pg now I am going to give her a few more months. If she doesn't wean herself then I will do it

carefreebride1

Ugh, i can't STAND people like this, and I hope if I'm ever acting like one, someone will tell me.  And she has NO children, I can't wait to see her change her tune if and when she has kids.

Sharon&Paul

I try not to let some of those comments phase me, because I know I made some of those comments prior to kids. I can this perfect image of how I was going to do things until reality hit me. I just say to myself they will learn in due time.

My twin sister keeps making comments about me breastfeeding, but I let them rool off my back because I know she will probably make the same choice when she has kids. You just don't know until you experience it for yourself.

jfire28

When C was a couple of weeks old, a girlfriend of mine came over to the house for a visit.  Well, he wasn't having her hold him & was just wailing & wailing & wailing.  I finally asked her to give over to me & she told me that SHE could get him to quiet down.  After 10min of him just crying his eyes out, I had to practically pry him out of her arms.  Once in "Mommy's arms" he quieted down.  She didn't have kids at the time, but she made some comment about it & I finally mentioned that "sometimes babies just want their Mommies".  Needless to say, she didn't appreciate my comment.  Honestly, I didn't care.

I love when you're out in public & get all those glaring eyes from people making judgments.  I betcha, those glaring eyes appreciate me calling them out too.

KGsky

I laugh silently at people like this. My BIL's wife was 3 months behind me with her first pregnancy and had all these theories about the coming trimesters, the birth, the baby care.  I just let her talk, and then watched as one-by-one her myths were debunked.  And I'm going to make a wager that the OP's friend is NOT blessed with an easy baby and has to eat every word!