I have a friend's baby shower this Sun. I RSVPed yes about 2 weeks ago, but I am on baby overload - my friend gave birth last Fri., I had a baby shower on Sat. which meant I couldn't join DH in going to the beach, DH's cousin called us Sat. to tell us she was KU (got married after us), and then the shower this Sunday. It has obviously not been easy emotionally.
Do you think it's really bad if I bail? My MIL is coming from OOT (true story) and I thought I'd just write and say that I got weekends mixed up and I apologize...
Also, it's at a restaurant and if it is anything like her bridal shower, there will be upwards of 60 people there, so I feel like I wouldn't be missed too much.
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Re: Thinking of Bailing on Baby Shower - Really Bad?
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I think it is totally fine if you decide not to go to the baby shower - since you already RSVP that you were coming - I would send a gift but there is not need for you to be there. There has been a few times when I bailed on baby showers - sometimes it is just too much and there is nothing wrong with that.
Point taken - but at this point I already bailed:(
TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!
James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!
Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!
I think it's totally fine that you bailed. It may be true that you knew about it, but you definitly sound overwhelmed with baby stuff lately, and you need to take care of yourself and keep your sanity. It might be different if you were planning this shower or something, but if you were one of many invited guests, don't give it another thought.