TTC after 35

confused about timing of sex and ovulation

I had my yearly appointment today and showed the doctor my chart from FF.  I asked the doctor about timing of sex and how often, and she stated that I needed to have sex the morning and evening of ovulation and then every other day for the next seven days (DH does not have any known problems).  I am completly confused because FF suggests you are most fertile the 5 days prior to ovulation and ovulation day.  Also, she will not refer us to a specialist until we have been trying for a year even though I am 36 (since she said we did not have trouble TTC DS 3 years ago).  Have I been having sex on the wrong days this entire time?

Re: confused about timing of sex and ovulation

  • That is confusing. Apparently, I'm doing it wrong too.
  • first of all hello nice to meet you. i've been away from the boards so you probably dont' know me.

    yes your doctors story is confusing.  your doctor is right in  having sex day of ovulation and i think day after but for 7 days, i dont think the egg is still there that long. i would read taking charge of your fertility.its my understanding that women are most fertile the 5 days before and day of O.  go get a second opinion from another OB, agreed it can take the average couple i think up to a year to conceive, but you are over 35,  and time unfortunatly is not on your side.

    HTH. 

     

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  • sorry i meant to say time is not on our side as in those of us over 35. as in we have only so many fertile years left.

      sorry i hope that didnt sound rude.Embarrassed

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  • Everything I have read says you are most fertile O day and the three days prior to O.  So, I think your dr. is confused.  Although, if she is right, this would explain why I haven't gotten knocked up.  Also, I have always heard you should see a specialist after 6 months if you are over 35.  Does your insurance require a referral from her?  If not, I would make an appt yourself.  If you do, then maybe you should switch drs so you can get the referral.
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    That doesn't sound right to me.  In addition to everything I've read, I use the CBEFM and it gives you a high reading for 2 days, 2 days "egg window" (if you ovulate) and one day high after that.
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  • I used CBE Digital Ovulation predictor.  When I got my smiley I did it on the day and only the day of the smilely and got PG twice, although they resulted in Chemical PG.
  • Welcome to the board!

    The nurse practitioner at my OB's office told me that the best time to have sex to get pregnant is any of the three days before ovulation, and the day of ovulation.  She said it's super rare for sperm to survive more than 3 days waiting for the egg (it's possible, but not all that common).

    I highly recommend using the CBE Digital Ovulation Predictor or Fertility Monitor.  If using the ovulation predictor, be prepared to have sex the same day you get your smiley face.  The fertility monitor will give you some warning before your peak day, so do it before and on your ovulation day if you can.

    That's my recommendation - I'm not a doctor, but I trust the people at my OB's office, and I trust what I read in TCOYF, and I trust the reports of the ladies on this board and others who have gotten KU.  So, yes, I think you've been doing it right.

  • Hmmmm. I think it may be time for a new doctor. It is the time before you O that you are most fertile like all of the other ladies are saying. I've had 2 chem pgs and we had sex only days leading up to O and the day of O.
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  • I think why your doctor said that is because maybe he thinks your O date isn't a guarantee based on your chart?  I'm going to assume doctors know more than we do--even collectively.  Two doctors in my practice recommended that we BD CD 10-20 every other day. 
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    No you haven't been having sex on the wrongs day, and FF is correct that your most fertile days are the ones leading up to O. If I remember correctly, the egg is only around for 12-24 hours after O. Also, I would try to see an RE since you've been trying for 6 months. Can you get a referral from your Primary Care Physician since your OB/GYN won't give you one?
    TTC since 3/08 DOR, High FSH, Hypothyroid, Uterine Polyps, blocked tube, MFI, 5 rounds of clomid, 5 IVF attempts, 2 hysteroscopies, 2 natural conceptions=2 losses (Methotrexate, D&C) Successful DE cycle twins born 10/7/11 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • I agree with the pps.  At the very least, I would say that you may want to consider finding a new OB.  Every OB I've ever spoken to said that after 35 you should be seeing a specialist after 6 months.  So, the fact that your OB said a year would make me a little suspicious.  If you're 36, you really don't want to be wasting time.  Go to the absolutely best OB and/or RE that you can find in your area.  You're still young, but my RE said that every 6 months can really make a difference. 
    TTC #1,
    IUI #1: December 2008 - BFN
    IVF #1: Microdose Lupron - July 2009; only got 1 egg; BFN
    IVF #2: Natural IVF - Sept 2009; BFP!; D&C Nov. 2009
    IVF #3: Natural IVF - ER: Feb 4, 2010 - 1 "M2" egg retrieved; ET: Feb 9; Beta#1 (19dpo): 2567; Beta #2: 6933; BFP w/ singleton w/strong hrtbt! DS born October 2010
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    IVF #4: Natural IVF - ER: Nov. 20, 2011; ET: Nov. 25, 2011; BFP! Beta#1 (19dpo): 1918; Saw hrtbt on 12/28/11!
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