***Samm1983****

AuburnBride06

Oh man Samm, I am so sorry to hear about your latest loss. I had followed your story when I saw you over on one of the other boards, I was really hoping this one was it for you.  We have never had any of the babies tested, although this was the only pregnancy we would have had a chance but it felt right that we bury our baby instead of having him tested.  My RE really doesn't think IVF would be the thing for us. He just doesn't see how it would help. I really don't know what I think in terms of IVF, but I guess it doesn't matter because we could never afford it anyways.  This last pregnancy, when did you start your lovenox? We started 3 days after our trigger shot, so about 1dpo, and I almost think that starting it earlier may have helped get us a little further this time. My RE mentioned that we could up the dose to 80mg/day (I was on 40mg), but that does have risks. I don't know yet. Maybe I will try it. 

I am so sorry for what you have been through. I wouldnt wish this kind of pain on my worst enemy. Losing 7 babies in 14 months has been the worst thing I have ever gone through in my life.  Sometimes I just wonder what I could have ever done to deserve this (though realistically, no one deserves this, or can do anything to deserve it).

 

samm1983

I don't think my RE really thinks IVF is for us either.  He is out of next steps to take though.  He told us not to try again, unless we wanted to try this.  I do not understand it all fully, but basically they confirm that the embryo is normal before they implant and it can improve chances.....again, not for us, since chromosomes are not the issue with us.  So, now we are trying to just get through this loss and have no idea what the future holds......but are starting to understand that it probably does not hold a baby for us.  As for the lovenox, I started with pregnancy #4 & #5 right after I got my BFP at 3w4d.  My RE doesn't start any earlier than that and I have asked him about it.  The problem tends to come a little later in the pregnancy when blood vessels are rapidly forming, so I felt ok with starting it then.  With this last pregnancy I BEGGED for a higher dosage of lovenox.  I was on 40mg.  He said that the risks were way too high to put me on a higher dose and that he would not do it.  I was literally in tears and hyperventilating and he would not do it.  I feel that he knows what he is doing, but I still feel that maybe if they would have just gave me a higher dosage it would be ok. 

I am so sorry for your losses.  I wonder the same thing all the time......but it never makes any sense and I never find the answers I am looking for.  Please let me know if you need anything.