housework while on BR *VENT*

Cullum13

How are you guys handling the housework while on bedrest? It started out okay with my DH doing a lot right after the OB mentioned BR. I am still allowed to work but he wants me off my feet anytime I am not working. So far my BP is staying low enough to avoid full BR. Well apparently DH has taken this to mean that he doesn't have to do as much. I asked him to vacuum 3 weeks ago! He still hasn't! I have begun doing little things like laundry just because someone has to and he works long hours, but I am afraid that pushing a vacuum will just be too much. A dirty house really stresses me out! In fact my BP has been much lower at work than home because of this.  Don't get me wrong DH has been great about feeding me and getting me things but just doesn't see the house as a priority the way I do. Who is doing the cleaning in your house?

Thanks for letting me vent. 

vrt235

When I was on bedrest in my last pregnancy I just had to let things go.  I couldn't keep nagging DH - he had a lot of other crap to deal with while I was on BR - like taking care of me!  My girlfriend came over a few times to do some dusting/vacuuming and we talked about getting a cleaning lady.  The first thing I did after coming home from the hospital was clean my whole house. LOL

Mrs.Babbsy

My MIL, Mom and Dh have taken on the house work.

Brookie-Cookie

Lurking...now is the time to take up friends and family who ask if they can help you with anything.  if you had a friend start the laundry and bring it up to you, you could fold it in bed.  I know if I had a friend on BR I wouldn't hesitate to help her out with house hold chores.  Good luck!

alibabbbs

When I was on bed rest, that was definitely tough. I had to take a good look at my priorities and make myself be okay with things not being anywhere near clean. I didn't feel as though I could ask DH to do any more than he was already doing. We had a deal where he did cooking, dishes, and laundry. NOTHING else got done.

Flyswmer

I'm not on bedrest but I can totally see that happening in my house.  I have to be careful this time around so I def. have not been cleaning the house like normal.  I have had to just let go....I know it's easier said that done but somehow you just have to do it.  Can you have a family member or friend come over and do it for you?  My mom has offered to clean a few times but I haven't let her yet b.c DH can do it.  I can't wait to clean my house from top to bottom once this baby is born!  I almost clean the walls the other day but my sister talked me out of it.  She said she would drive 4 hours to do it just so that I wouldn't!!

Kadyra

DH did most of the cleaning before I went on BR because my schedule was so crazy and I would often just come home and fall asleep after eating.  He is great.  But his threshold for clutter is different than mine.  I will clear off table space a lot sooner than he will and put away papers and stuff.  We bought a nice new vacuum with a light that tells you when the floor is clean, which he thinks is the coolest, and this encourages him to use it-- way more than I would!  He and I have about the same threshold for dishes.... they can stack up pretty badly.  I try to keep them in neat piles in the sink/on the counter so they don't take over.  It's a big compromise, since neither of us are big cleaners and now half of the motivating force is out.  But we have company often, so this keeps us in check. 

But the other ladies are right.  You have to look at your priorities.  You may have to let some things go.  I mean, it's not going to be spick and span spotless with a newborn, toddler, etc.  You may get used to losing that little bit of control now before with the stress of the baby you have a total meltdown.  And if the vacuuming is killing you, present it to him after work one day.  Or ask a friend/family member, as was suggested.

snickerdoodle27

Do you have someone that could come over and  help out? I know that my dh wouldn't be able to handle taking care of Jacob plus doing all the cleaning/laundry etc. Or maybe hire a cleaning person to come in once a week, if you can afford it. Don't stress yourself out over the house. Your first priority needs to be resting!!

Cullum13

My best friend/ex-cleaning lady is now dealing with morning sickness herself so she is not able to help. My poor mother is taking care of sick family members almost every day of the week. I can't stand my MIL long enough to let her clean. lol. And both of our sisters live 3 hours away. So I guess I had better just suck it up and get used to it not being up to my standards. At least DH is keeping me well feed and taking care of the dogs. And he did finally vacuum!  Thanks guys for the advice and letting me vent. I feel better about it just being told to let it go. I guess it feels good knowing mine isn't the only dirty house out there. lol.