really overwhelmed -- me fainting, DD fever (long)

abj22

I haven't been on in a few days and I'm sorry if I missed anything big. I dropped my laptop Friday morning and it totally went dead. It's been a HORRIBLE, long process to get it repaired and restored. I can't even get into it because I'm too exhausted.

Friday night my neighbor was having a girl's night out happy hour at her house. It had been such a crazy, hectic day and I was so glad to get out and be social and feel human. I was chatting with my friends and we had been standing up for over an hour. My lower back started to really hurt and the next thing I knew I got this massive wave of nausea and I whispered to my friend that I thought I was going to pass out. Thank GOD she was standing right next to me. She quickly yelled to my other 2 friends and they caught me and got me into a chair. Miraculously nobody else at the party even noticed. I was mortified of course. They said I totally turned white and my lips turned white and my eyes completely glazed over and I was non-responsive. Thankfully DD was home safe and sound with DH. My friend was about to run to my house to get DH but I came to and was pretty shaky and sweaty but ok.

This happened to me once during my pregnancy with DD and once at the very beginning of this pregnancy (when I actually fell in the bathroom and bruised myself up pretty bad) but I really thought it was just a 1st tri thing. I never expected it to happen again this late in the pregnancy. Of course now I am totally freaked out that it could happen again. What if I had been holding DD? Or bathing her? Or carrying her up the stairs? Or driving?

And of course I am scared that my body is failing me. I tried to call my MW but it was the weekend and nobody ever called me back and I've just been too busy to try again. Is this a sign of something bad? I am absolutely terrified of bed rest. Everyone keeps telling me I need to rest more and take it easy and blah blah blah. But I have a VERY active 10-month-old to take care of and keeping up with her is like running a marathon. I have no idea how to balance it all. It doesn't seem possible.

To top it off, DH is away on business for the next 4 nights. Then we are off to my in-laws for 4 nights (blah!) and then DH is gone again for 5 more nights. I am totally on my own here and feeling so overwhelmed. I don't have anybody to help that would actually be helpful. They all want to be fed and cleaned up after -- more work than it's worth.?

And to top it off even more, DD has a fever right now of 103. Poor thing. What if it doesn't go down and I have to go to the ER tonight by myself? She took a 3 hour nap and is already down again for the night. Should I wake her at some point to take her temp again or assume that if it goes up she'll wake up on her own and let me know?

I am so exhausted and run down and overwhelmed. But relieved to finally have my computer back so I can vent to you girls. thanks so much for listening.?

ocean71506

I am so sorry things have been rough.  I think you probably passed out from being on your feet too long or it was your body's way of telling you to it easy for a bit. I bet it takes a toll on your body being pregnant and taking care of Avery.  I know you said you have no help but could you maybe find a babysitter to give you a few hours to yourself during the week?  As for Avery, I hope her fever goes down!  I hope you get some rest and good luck with the next couple weeks.  I hope you get extra energy to get through it!

MayBride2B2007

that sounds scary!  i think you need to call your MW again tomorrow and go in to be checked out. i hope both you and avery feel better and get some good rest.  let me know if there's anything i can do to help.

BarnStar

Wow - I'm glad you are ok. I bet you passed out because you were standing too long. My leg used to go numb if I stood too long, so baby can certainly put pressure on your blood flow in weird ways, which could cause you to pass out. Definitely check in with your MW (and let her know that you called over the weekend without a return call!) but I'm betting she will tell you stay hydrated and rest.

As for DD, I can't offer any advice as I haven't dealt with a sick baby yet. But I hope she is feeling better soon! ((hugs))

lilyvalley

I would call the pedi about Avery.  Usually they just tell you to give tylenol and make sure it goes down.  I don't think I would wake her to take her temp.  Maybe just feel her forehead before you go to bed.

You - have you been drinking enough water?  I am guessing probably not b/c chasing Avery around but remember they suggest 10 8oz glasses a day.  I would still call the MW.   I passed out after having DD and it was a terrible feeling.  And I agree with the PP - maybe a babysitter/ mother's' helper for a few hours a week would be helpful for you.

My SIL was a SAHM and she had to put my niece and nephew (twins) in daycare part time while she was pg with her 3rd.

Feel better.  Hugs!

Snugs99

So scary.  I'm glad you are ok.  When I was pregnant I would feel dizzy if I was standing for a while and I almost passed out at my work shower from being too hot.  Keep trying your MW.  I'm so sorry no one useful is around to help you.

brisell23

I'm sorry you are so overwhelmed, I can understand how all that stuff would be frustrating and scary!  I agree about calling your MW again. I hope you feel better and that you can find someone to help out.  ((hugs))

sdkrlm

my gawd! it all sounds overwhelming.  I hope you can get an answer from your MW soon.  I get those waves of nausea/dizziness but I have never fainted.

And poor Avery.  I hope she feels better soon.

cherryblossom25

I'm so sorry abj. That's a lot to deal with all at once.

That passing out episode sounds really scary and understandably upsetting. I hope it doesn't happen again. I also hope your MW gets back to you asap so at least you can have some peace of mind. I'd think that it happened because as you said, you are "exhausted, run down, and overwhelmed" - you have a lot going on right now and it takes a LOT of energy to manage your life and grow a baby at the same time. I wish I was closer, I would totally come over and take care of Avery for a while so you could rest!!

I wish I had some advice for you. I don't really know what to do with a sick baby because A has never had a temp higher than 101. I hope Avery feels better soon. Poor girl

So sorry, load of (((((hugs))))) to you. I just wish I could actually do something helpful.

books4brooke

First- I had a lot of near-fainting spells throughout my whole pregnancy, and a lot of it was low blood sugar.  I would make sure that you have a snack with you at all times so you can take a bite (like a couple of nuts even) if you start to feel that sensation.  I think usually you get a warning, so if you had DD in your hands, you could put her down and then get down yourself.

Second- I would wake her if I were you.  When K's temp was that high it freaked me out, and I wouldn't go to sleep until it broke.  I gave him tylenol and took his temp every couple of hours.  

Sueball1

books4brooke:

First- I had a lot of near-fainting spells throughout my whole pregnancy, and a lot of it was low blood sugar.  I would make sure that you have a snack with you at all times so you can take a bite (like a couple of nuts even) if you start to feel that sensation. 

I think this is great advice. I also got dizzy a lot while pregnant (and even while not pregnant) and it was usually from dehydration or not eating enough. 

I also think the idea of getting someone to help a few hours a week would be great, if it's financially possible. Or maybe you could find someone willing to do a nanny share situation so you can drop A over at their house a few hours a week with their kid and their nanny can make some extra money? I have a few friends here who do that and it works well...

Big hugs honey. I am so sorry you are going through all of this.

summerbridesara

My guess is that you fainted because you were on your feet too long.   If you're standing in one position for too, that can happen.

I'm sorry you're having a rough time.  I hope your DD feels better soon.

I know you've heard it before, but try to take it easy - as much as you can with a 10 month old!

Skatcat

I had almost the exact same thing happen to me late in my 2nd tri. It was scary!  It sounds like your body is telling you to mellow out for a couple of days..I hope you can!

Skatcat

PS, how the hell are you 26 weeks already? Wow!

ncsubride

Awww I am so sorry hang in there it will get better.