MIL Vent. anyone feel like joining me????

pumpkinhead06

so, I refuse to let my MIL watch Jacob if I am not in the house.  Dh sorta gets it, but she continues to not prove herself capable.

She came over on Wednesday to watch him for a couple hours so I could get things done around the house.... I am not thrilled b/c I like to be in the same room and watch him, but it's a compromise to not letting her watch him alone.

so anyway.. she has this thing where she REFUSES to change his diaper.  I have no idea what her issue is.  Dh has flat out told her that she'll never watch him alone until she changes a diaper, yet she refuses.  On Wednesday, he had a seriously poopy diaper... like leaked through his outfit poopy.  of course she didn't change him, and when I came back downstairs to get something, I noticed it, and the freaking biatch didn't even attempt to apologize, help me, change it herselft. nada.  she said... oh, Daphne (the dog) was smelling his behind.  hehehe.   ***!

my other vent... ( I am a bitchh.  I admit it.  I deal with it.  dh deals with it.)  She has this friend, who is closer to dh and my age.. not her 60's....  well, this friend is not our friend.  we dont' like her.  we don't want to go to her picnics, to her house for dinner etc... yet my mil keeps trying to force us on her.  well said friend has a luau every year in august.  Um, we seriously planned our vacation on the weekend when we thought the luau was.  don't you know... we picked the wrong weekend.  and MIL is pressuring us to go to this stupid thing.  grrrrrrr. 

vent over for now.  she's coming over tomorrow.  I am sure I'll have serious anxiety and anger by the time she leaves.

MayBride2B2007

seriously, how could she not change his diaper???

sdkrlm

that would be a HUGE issues for me if MIL didn't change a dirty diaper.  that's sort of basic baby care, ya know? 

 

pumpkinhead06

 I KNOW!  I mean... if it was just pee, ok.  or a little poop.  but the freaking poop leaked through his lite blue romper!  it was obvious.  and then laughs and says that the doggie was sniffing his butt.  grrrrrrr.

she just digs her self into a deeper and deeper hole.  good thing.. my dh totally supports me.. doesn't always agree, but 100% supports.

Summerstarr2

Wow. How did she manage to raise your dh without changing diapers?

I'll vent some too... so get this -

MIL watched Levi one day while I was at work before daycare started. When I dropped him off I told her that I didn't have a chance to feed him since he slept late, and she may as well make a bottle. Told her not to microwave it, and just put it in a cup/bowl of hot water for a couple minutes, shake well and test it high on the inside of her forearm for temp (she does all her dishes by hand so I know her wrists are probably desensitized by hot water) Then I go say good-bye to Levi and go back into the kitchen to let her know I was leaving. Thank goodness I did, because she was freaking bowling a pot of water to warm his bottle in!!!

Then when I picked him up, she asks me "What did the doctor said to do about colic?" Umm, my kid is not colic-y. He crys when he wants/needs something like any other baby. I finally asked what do you mean enough to figure out that thinks a gassy tummy causes colic and she blamed his rumbling tummy and tooting for any of his crying.

And to top it off, when I was collecting all his stuff to head home, she goes to the kitchen counter and hands me the container with the remainder of breastmilk. When I grabbed it, it felt warm, so I asked her how long it had been sitting out. Her response "What do you mean? I was supposed to refridgerate it?" ARGHHH! She fed my baby milk that had been out for 8 hours, and I had to toss out the rest.

QueenOfWhirled

jeez! I am wondering how your DHs survived!

Snugs99

She doesn't change diapers???  What a piece of work.  I haven't seen my MIL since March first at Aidan's Christening and I blew her off because of some things that happened in the weeks leading up.

When we are out of the few babysitting choices we have DH nor I EVER suggest MIL (or his sister for that matter) as an option.  We just change make other plans.  He finally gets the issues I have with her (after 10 years).

My MIL is also STILL spelling Aidan's name wrong after 7 months and seeing it written out several times.

ocean71506

WOW! I cannot believe she would not change his diaper.  That is unreal.  I just dont trust my inlaws not to smoke around Emma at their house so they cannot babysit there.  It sucks but oh well!

katie2shoes

What is her excuse for never changing a diaper?  Or does she just blow it off when your DH talked to her about it?? Thats weird that she won't change a diaper ... especially if she wants to babysit for you, you would think she would make an effort!