My mother thinks I am weird because I don't want a baby shower...

Katalen72

In 7 days, I will be moving to AR from SC. I am 21 wks pregnant. This move to AR was kind of a surprise, but DH got a really fabulous teaching offer/position that he shouldn't turn down, and with my profession, I was able to get transferred to AR also.

In the "hurry" of our move and because I felt I wasn't far along of enough yet, I did not have a baby shower. I told my mother, that I wasn't really planning on having one because 1, I don't know anyone in AR, so I don't know anyone that would want to throw me a baby shower there. 2, My friends live all scattered around the country and world, I would not expect my friends to shell out big bucks in today's economy/job market to come to an out of town baby shower. 3, DH's family lives in WI and IL and my family lives in SC and in Spain, too far from AR.

My mother thinks I should have one anyways or at least register for stuff. I feel awkward registering for things with out having a baby shower, I don't want to impose to family and friends to buy stuff for my LO. My mother thinks I am being a weirdo about this and to get over it, and have a baby shower or at least register for stuff.

I hate imposing on people, especially family and friends.

shainababygirl

I would register for some stuff... but not announce that you've registered. That way if someone asks if they can buy you something... you could say "You really don't have too, but, we registered at such-and-such."

I'm not having a shower either, because we have been given SO MUCH stuff (hand me downs) that we don't need anything. But, if anyone asks, I'm going to just ask for Wal-mart or Target or somewhere gift cards for diapers and essentials.

HisKathy

It can't hurt to register.  If anything it help you get organized on what you need and you can get those completion coupons.  This way if your relatives want to buy you something they can have some guidence on what you need/want.  Good luck with the move!

erinb31

I think that registering isn't a bad idea for you, because 1- if your Mom and family decide to send you gifts, then they know what you want and can ship it easily, and if your Mom knows where you are registered, she can communicate to people if they ask her what to get you ... and 2-you can at least get the discount when you close out your registry and buy things off of it.  For me, registering helped me organize what we need with what we want, and DH and I had a nice afternoon together going through everything.

Tonya_G

A registry could be a good idea, just b/c they usually give you completion coupons, so you could at least save some money on the things that you need. I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people wanted to buy a little something for the baby and would look up your registry as well- your mom could explain to those that ask why you're not having a shower, but let them know where you're registered if they'd like to get you a gift.

kmtfu

I don't think we'll have a shower either, but we still plan on registering... if for anything else than to stay organized with crap. It's not like I'm going to send out a chain email or anything stating, we're registered here and here.  If people find it and want to buy from it, great; if not, OK too.

GL

bekahsch23

I agree with the pp- I would register too. People will probably start asking what you want/where are you registered and it would be alot easier to just say to look on the registry. People love to buy baby things!