xp gah! dh vent

Clotho! · July 2009

so every night S is fussy from 7 to 9 pretty much inconsolable w/ a few brief periods of calmness/sleeping. So last night dh looks me right in the eye and says "so I think he is doing this just to bully us into getting what he wants which is to not go to bed." I'm like you're kidding right? He says "No seriously we should just put him in his crib and let him cry himself to sleep." What?!?! He's only 3 months old he doesn't know how to be a bully but dh keeps insisting that is what he is doing.

This from the same man who wouldn't let me do it CIO w/ our 1st one (I had to wait till he went out of town when R was 9 months old) he has been begging me to do CIO w/ S since he was 8 weeks old. I keep telling him he's not old enough we need to wait a couple more months and he's like we did it w/ R and he's fine. I tell him R was a lot older when I did it w/ him it's different. Which even if we did do CIO I wouldn't just leave him in his crib till he cried himself to sleep which is what dh wants to do.

Dh keeps insisting we need to do it w/ S b/c he is so much worse than R ever was. What?!?! Are we remembering the same baby R had acid reflux and colic and pretty much cried for 20 hours a day and didn't sleep through the night till he was almost 1 and then not consistantly till he was 18 months. S is a cake walk compared to him. Any advice on how I can help dh understand where I'm coming from? TIA