Were you bullied in Jr. High/HS?

102503Natalie

The post below about people making fun of her DD's glasses made me think of this.  Were any of you bullied in jr. high or high school?  What was the reasoning behind the bullying?  Does it still affect your life today or how you view things?

mrse1107

I was never bullied - there was a brief period of time where a few girls decided to call me a "chicken head" b/c i started hanging out with a guy one of them liked or something stupid -- but it didnt last long so I suppose it doesn't count.

mrsrose16

I was not bullied (unless you count the name calling when I was pg in high school). But my son is bullied, he has a problem with his hip joints, and does not run fast. I was told he wouldn't be able to run at all, but he can slowly. I feel so bad for him, he has come home crying, and has been afraid to go to school on occasion. The school can't control it, and it is the worst feeling as a parent to know your child is being bullied.

102503Natalie

mrsrose16:

I was not bullied (unless you count the name calling when I was pg in high school). But my son is bullied, he has a problem with his hip joints, and does not run fast. I was told he wouldn't be able to run at all, but he can slowly. I feel so bad for him, he has come home crying, and has been afraid to go to school on occasion. The school can't control it, and it is the worst feeling as a parent to know your child is being bullied.

I am terrified of this.  I don't know how I'll handle it if Anna is bullied.

nbjenni

Some little sh!thead in middle school called me Doodoo Brown (my last name). A few years ago he hit on me in a bar and I just had to LOL at him - all 5'4" 200+lbs of him.

*Bre*

mrse1107:

I was never bullied - there was a brief period of time where a few girls decided to call me a "chicken head" b/c i started hanging out with a guy one of them liked or something stupid -- but it didnt last long so I suppose it doesn't count.

If I'm not mistaken..."chicken head" is a slang term for someone how gives blow jobs...

I was picked on because we were "rich" because we drove a car that was made in the 90s. I wouldn't say that I was "bullied" but was really in a pressured environment. You couldn't be yourself in my school.

mrsrose16

102503Natalie:

mrsrose16:

I was not bullied (unless you count the name calling when I was pg in high school). But my son is bullied, he has a problem with his hip joints, and does not run fast. I was told he wouldn't be able to run at all, but he can slowly. I feel so bad for him, he has come home crying, and has been afraid to go to school on occasion. The school can't control it, and it is the worst feeling as a parent to know your child is being bullied.

I am terrified of this.  I don't know how I'll handle it if Anna is bullied.

I try to be positive with him, and discuss how good he is at other things, and he shouldn't worry about what other people say. But it does break my heart.

Cec07

I wasn't bullied, but a couple guys thought it was funny to call me Jay Leno b/c I have a big chin.  Trust me it is no where near Jay Leno's, but it did make me insecure about it.  My DH was literally beat up in school b/c he is dyslexic and it still bothers him to this day.  He couldn't read until he was in 6th grade.  He is very self conscious about his spelling/reading.  I really hope ds doesn't have dyslexia b/c I don't want him to suffer.

Monkeybuttwhat

I was really bad in elementary school . This older girl would call me elf ears all the time she was a B. Oh and my freaking mom put my initials LAB on my LL Bean backpack and people called me a Labrador. We weren't rich and I had to carry that ting for years!

Once I made it to HS though I was really popular and never had that issue. I hung out with the other popular kids and a lot of them bullied kids and I didn't condone it. I always talked  to the weird nerdy kids they made fun of. I knew how it felt and I would never want to make someone feel that way.

There is a girl that bullies me in my adult life and says nasty things about my kids, my husband, and me. She is almost ten years older than me. It blows my mind that even as an adult and mother you can be that nasty. She even turns my screen name into monkeybuttwhale and makes fun of my weight, talked about running me over with a car and pushing me down stairs when I was pregnant, says my DD looks like she has FAS, calls my husband a hobbit, and says I am a bad parent. I just can't believe how nasty people can be in this life.

DelGrecoBride

I haven't been bullied (that i can recall)

but i have been bullied on the nest.....waaaahhhhhh

lol

Echowysp

I was very much bullied, from 4th grade until about 10th.  It was hell at times.  Once my mom gave me a 1/2 a valium to get me on the high school  bus because I was freaking out so much about the teasing.  I think they teased me because I gave them a good reaction and because I was a nice person who didn't fight back.

I think it makes me sensitive to what people think about me at times and I tended to be a people pleaser.  I can totally see why kids commit suicide or do the opposite and pull a Columbine. 

Monkeybuttwhat

DelGrecoBride:

I haven't been bullied (that i can recall)

but i have been bullied on the nest.....waaaahhhhhh

lol

Who hasn't been bullied on the nest You have to earn your stripes solider!

sara1817

Monkeybuttwhat:

I was really bad in elementary school . This older girl would call me elf ears all the time she was a B. Oh and my freaking mom put my initials LAB on my LL Bean backpack and people called me a Labrador. We weren't rich and I had to carry that ting for years!

Once I made it to HS though I was really popular and never had that issue. I hung out with the other popular kids and a lot of them bullied kids and I didn't condone it. I always talked? to the weird nerdy kids they made fun of. I knew how it felt and I would never want to make someone feel that way.

There is a girl that bullies me in my adult life and says nasty things about my kids, my husband, and me. She is almost ten years older than me. It blows my mind that even as an adult and mother you can be that nasty. She even turns my screen name into monkeybuttwhale and makes fun of my weight, talked about running me over with a car and pushing me down stairs when I was pregnant, says my DD looks like she has FAS, calls my husband a hobbit, and says I am a bad parent. I just can't believe how nasty people can be in this life.

People can be so awful! I'm so sorry that another adult treats you this way! I was bullied because I was painfully shy. Reading this makes me want to kick some a$$!?

102503Natalie

Echowysp:

I was very much bullied, from 4th grade until about 10th.  It was hell at times.  Once my mom gave me a 1/2 a valium to get me on the high school  bus because I was freaking out so much about the teasing.  I think they teased me because I gave them a good reaction and because I was a nice person who didn't fight back.

I think it makes me sensitive to what people think about me at times and I tended to be a people pleaser.  I can totally see why kids commit suicide or do the opposite and pull a Columbine. 

I am very sorry. 

I was also horribly bullied, but it was only during Junior High, and it was all because of one stupid girl who spread rumors about me.  Those two years really made a huge impact on my life, and I still have bad flashbacks to it all the time.  I think this is probably why I'm uber compassionate in life now - always befriending the underdog.  I know how it feels, and I wouldn't wish that feeling on my worst enemy.

I am terrified for Anna.  I'll probably have a worse time with it than she will if she's ever bullied.

DelGrecoBride

Monkeybuttwhat:

DelGrecoBride:

I haven't been bullied (that i can recall)

but i have been bullied on the nest.....waaaahhhhhh

lol

Who hasn't been bullied on the nest You have to earn your stripes solider!

oh i know it wouldn't be fun if people were bullied (tactfully..hahaha) i just hate hearing how people are so cruel in real life! I haven't had anyone make fun of my looks to my face - except on the nest!

102503Natalie

DelGrecoBride:

Monkeybuttwhat:

DelGrecoBride:

I haven't been bullied (that i can recall)

but i have been bullied on the nest.....waaaahhhhhh

lol

Who hasn't been bullied on the nest You have to earn your stripes solider!

I haven't had anyone make fun of my looks to my face - except on the nest!

People who do that shi*t are so ridiculous!  I've never understood how anyone could resort to that kind of stuff. 

mrskadams

I was bullied more in elementary and middle school than high school.  I was overweight, and kids were very cruel to me in elementary school.  By high school I was in a size 5 and looked pretty good.  Sadly, I'm overweight again, but at least I'm an adult.  I worry about this a lot for DD as both DH and I are overweight.  I don't want her to suffer like I did.

Timeg

Yes - I was a quiet girl and relatively unknown to people at school. I wore braces, but I don't think that caused it. The jocks and cheerleaders were all jerks and they would push me around, throw things at me, and make comments behind my back. It hurt and it took me a lot of years to gain the confidence I have now. I didn't think I was beautiful because of the way people treated me (was bullied in elementary because of crooked teeth). Even my own grandparents would criticize things here and there (you need to do this, you need to change that, etc.) and my parents were the only ones who told me that I had a lot of worth and that helped.

Words cannot describe how amazed I am when my husband honestly says that I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I struggle to believe him sometimes, but he is VERY genuine. I am very blessed to have found someone who loves every ounce of me, the good and the bad.

citygirl_

I thought I was bullied at the time.. this boy on my bus in 7th grade called me Big Foot and I honestly thought it was the most hurtful thing ever.  So strange that it effected me at all!  I started dating a popular boy soon after and the teasing stopped.  Lame-o.

DelGrecoBride

Timeg:

Yes - I was a quiet girl and relatively unknown to people at school. I wore braces, but I don't think that caused it. The jocks and cheerleaders were all jerks and they would push me around, throw things at me, and make comments behind my back. It hurt and it took me a lot of years to gain the confidence I have now. I didn't think I was beautiful because of the way people treated me (was bullied in elementary because of crooked teeth). Even my own grandparents would criticize things here and there (you need to do this, you need to change that, etc.) and my parents were the only ones who told me that I had a lot of worth and that helped.

Words cannot describe how amazed I am when my husband honestly says that I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I struggle to believe him sometimes, but he is VERY genuine. I am very blessed to have found someone who loves every ounce of me, the good and the bad.

ugh this totally kills me for you. I am so glad you have the husband you do....and you should believe everything he says to you. His opinion is the only one that matters anyway! I would love to see those cheerleaders and football players now...

J+O

It only happened twice, both by girls who were angry I was dating someone they liked. ?One went as far as to sit behind me at a basketball game and she pulled my hair out! ?Like tiny strands... I turned around and screamed at her and she acted like I was the crazy one. ?Another girl had all her friends say rude things in the hallway to me but that was about it, I actually dumped the guy because I didn't think he was worth all the drama. ?

I was best friends with someone who bullied a lot of people... to her it was a joke, and it was funny at times, but looking back... she made some people's life hell. ?I was never a part of it, but she told me stories after the fact.?

carolinag

i was certainly teased from time to time. wasn't everyone?!? but nothing severe. nothing that made too much of an impact on my life.

carolinag

Monkeybuttwhat:

There is a girl that bullies me in my adult life and says nasty things about my kids, my husband, and me. She is almost ten years older than me. It blows my mind that even as an adult and mother you can be that nasty. She even turns my screen name into monkeybuttwhale and makes fun of my weight, talked about running me over with a car and pushing me down stairs when I was pregnant, says my DD looks like she has FAS, calls my husband a hobbit, and says I am a bad parent. I just can't believe how nasty people can be in this life.

this is so beyond unacceptable. why do you ever see her? how is she associated in your life? i swear to you i will come and throatpunch her for you.  

Hope*Always

Echowysp:

I was very much bullied, from 4th grade until about 10th.  It was hell at times.  Once my mom gave me a 1/2 a valium to get me on the high school  bus because I was freaking out so much about the teasing.  I think they teased me because I gave them a good reaction and because I was a nice person who didn't fight back.

I think it makes me sensitive to what people think about me at times and I tended to be a people pleaser.  I can totally see why kids commit suicide or do the opposite and pull a Columbine. 

Jr. High and part of High School were hell for me. I was painfully shy and a girl that I grew up with decided she didn't like me (still don't know why to this day - and don't care now). But she and a bunch of other girls picked on me constantly. Would stand in front of my locker so I couldn't get to it, yelled at me, accused me of being gay (??), left horrible notes in my locker. High School calmed down for awhile but by Sophomore year it was in full swing again. Like PP, I was sick over it. I'd come home hysterical and did not want to go to school. I had horrible abdominal pains that I was doubled over half the time, went to the ER and was finally diagnosed with ovarion cysts but I know most of it was psychological. Ended up missing part of my Junior Yr. because I was so "sick". Finally by Senior Year I had enough and returned. Basically said "F You" to all of them and they left me alone...go figure...wish I had figured that out years earlier. 

If those people knew me now they'd know I'd tell them to "F off" in a heartbeat. I'm such a different person now and because of my experiences I do not take crap from anyone. I might be too outspoken now!

Hope*Always

sara1817:

Monkeybuttwhat:

I was really bad in elementary school . This older girl would call me elf ears all the time she was a B. Oh and my freaking mom put my initials LAB on my LL Bean backpack and people called me a Labrador. We weren't rich and I had to carry that ting for years!

Once I made it to HS though I was really popular and never had that issue. I hung out with the other popular kids and a lot of them bullied kids and I didn't condone it. I always talked  to the weird nerdy kids they made fun of. I knew how it felt and I would never want to make someone feel that way.

There is a girl that bullies me in my adult life and says nasty things about my kids, my husband, and me. She is almost ten years older than me. It blows my mind that even as an adult and mother you can be that nasty. She even turns my screen name into monkeybuttwhale and makes fun of my weight, talked about running me over with a car and pushing me down stairs when I was pregnant, says my DD looks like she has FAS, calls my husband a hobbit, and says I am a bad parent. I just can't believe how nasty people can be in this life.

People can be so awful! I'm so sorry that another adult treats you this way! I was bullied because I was painfully shy. Reading this makes me want to kick some a$$! 

I'll join you. That pisses me off. What happened to adults being adults?

divakat

I wasn't but DH was horribly bullied in gradeschool and Jr. High. It really had a negative effect on him. He was tall and lanky and not terribly good at sports except swimming, where he was awesome. It was great because at his high school reunion he got the last laugh. He was tall, hot, successful and has an (ahem) awesome wife and family. You could totally tell a lot of the women who wouldn't have given him the time of day in high school were totally kicking themselves, lol, as they sat next to their fat, balding, beer guzzling SO's.

lalalalindsy

One girl in 8th grade picked on me constantly, but fortunately we only had one class together.  She would always say "you have something on your nose" and rub under her nose as if I had a booger or something.  I never really understood why she always did that, but several years later I realized she was trying to insult me for being a teacher's pet but was too dumb to realize the gesture should be rubbing the tip of her nose.  Maybe more people picked on me and I just never realized it.  Our district put students into advanced classes starting in 9th grade, and I never encountered another bully.

miniko

mrsrose16:

I was not bullied (unless you count the name calling when I was pg in high school). But my son is bullied, he has a problem with his hip joints, and does not run fast. I was told he wouldn't be able to run at all, but he can slowly. I feel so bad for him, he has come home crying, and has been afraid to go to school on occasion. The school can't control it, and it is the worst feeling as a parent to know your child is being bullied.

Wow in Florida bullying is a big deal. Kids get into lots of trouble for it.  We even have a law against bullying in schools.  They consider telling someone they can't sit at "your" table bullying. Your child has the right to feel safe in his school. I would cause such a shiit storm if I found out my kid was being bullied.

brandonsfuturewife07

my maiden name is a color, and i was called every color BUT my last name.  how original...  also, my name is melinda, and i got a lot of melinDUH.

after i started having seizures, my "friends" thought it would be funny to make light of the situation and call me a "flopper" for a while.  i don't know if it was bullying or their way of dealing with the situation.

SWMcFarland

Hope*Always:

Echowysp:

I was very much bullied, from 4th grade until about 10th.  It was hell at times.  Once my mom gave me a 1/2 a valium to get me on the high school  bus because I was freaking out so much about the teasing.  I think they teased me because I gave them a good reaction and because I was a nice person who didn't fight back.

I think it makes me sensitive to what people think about me at times and I tended to be a people pleaser.  I can totally see why kids commit suicide or do the opposite and pull a Columbine. 

Jr. High and part of High School were hell for me. I was painfully shy and a girl that I grew up with decided she didn't like me (still don't know why to this day - and don't care now). But she and a bunch of other girls picked on me constantly. Would stand in front of my locker so I couldn't get to it, yelled at me, accused me of being gay (??), left horrible notes in my locker. High School calmed down for awhile but by Sophomore year it was in full swing again. Like PP, I was sick over it. I'd come home hysterical and did not want to go to school. I had horrible abdominal pains that I was doubled over half the time, went to the ER and was finally diagnosed with ovarion cysts but I know most of it was psychological. Ended up missing part of my Junior Yr. because I was so "sick". Finally by Senior Year I had enough and returned. Basically said "F You" to all of them and they left me alone...go figure...wish I had figured that out years earlier. 

If those people knew me now they'd know I'd tell them to "F off" in a heartbeat. I'm such a different person now and because of my experiences I do not take crap from anyone. I might be too outspoken now!

I could have written that myself, except I have never really gotten over it.  I have social anxiety and can never stand up for myself.  I can stand up for anyone else but completely freak out when it comes to me.

There is a gal in my office that is a huge workplace bully.  Everyone knows it but just lets her get away with it because they are pain avoiders.  She has singled me out because I am about 15 years younger and have more education and I am in a position she wants but cannot have.  It has made coming back to work fter mat. leave that much worse.

Geekchick921

Echowysp:

I was very much bullied, from 4th grade until about 10th.  It was hell at times.  Once my mom gave me a 1/2 a valium to get me on the high school  bus because I was freaking out so much about the teasing.  I think they teased me because I gave them a good reaction and because I was a nice person who didn't fight back.

I could have written this, though occasionally I did fight back and I'd get in trouble, or I'd sometimes have an awesome teacher or lunch mom that noticed how bad the other kids harrassed me and backed me up.  For me, it was about 3rd grade to 8th.  6th was the worst, no question; I wanted to change schools.  I was overweight but nowhere near as much as some of the kids that made fun of me but they used to call me a combination of my last name and Shamu.  I think they really picked on me because I am very smart and was in the gifted program and they were little haters. 

I think it makes me sensitive to what people think about me at times and I tended to be a people pleaser.  I can totally see why kids commit suicide or do the opposite and pull a Columbine. 

Completely.

102503Natalie

Wow, I just went back and read some of the posts that were written after I logged off.  My heart really does go out to all of you.  I, too, know how awful it is to be bullied and to be scared to death to leave your house.  I'm glad to read that you are all stronger today because of it.  For all the hell I went through, I wouldn't take any of it back because it made me the person I am today.