Lurker needs help (loss of baby mentioned-not for the faint of heart)

sunshine173

I usually only lurk because i find my answers in other posts, but i needed some advice. One of my good friends recently gave birth and lost her baby on the same day. We have sent a card and have spoken to offer condolences (sP?) but i was thinking should i do something more? Such as maybe send some sort of basket or something? This is such a hard situation, not sure what to do....

Thanks in advance for any advice.

goodheartedmommy

I would take a few freezer meals. Offer to be there to listen when she needs it.

Rebekah1021

Ditto the PP and just offer to listen to her.

squishywife

i don't know what to send her...cookies?

but here is a website addiesgift.org .  its my friend's organization.  she lost her baby over a year ago and tries to help women through the grieving process...even if you just mention it later...might help to connect with other women going through or who have gone through the same thing.

(((hugs)))

JOEBunny

Two of my friends have lost full term babies.  I made donations to Ronald McDonald house in their names both times.  They seemed to appreciate it.  The March of Dimes is another good organization that helps prevent birth defects and fetal death. 

I am sorry for your friend.

kevschickee2

goodheartedmommy:

I would take a few freezer meals. Offer to be there to listen when she needs it.

this.  I am so sorry this happened to your friend I can't imagine what they are going through

sunshine173

Thank you so much. Those are great suggestions...

femmegem

How heartbreaking. Meals would be great. Or GCs to local restaurants they could get carry out food from.

I can't even imagine the pain they're in.

2beJessieD

check with the ladies on the pregnancy loss page, they have lots of advice based unfortunatley on personal experience.  coolteacher79 did a whole post on her blog about this very subject.  Overall, don't forget about their loss as time goes by, a call or a note on anniverasries ( a month, a year, etc) are very much appreciated.

Prayers are with your friend.

suzymarie

I haven't experienced it personally, but I have heard that people fade away after a few weeks, and stop mentioning the baby.

 

Moms want people to keep calling even months later, and acknoledge the baby and ask how they are feeling about everything.  Also, use the baby's name- moms want other people to remember their baby as a person, not just a fetus who died.

AngelaSue

goodheartedmommy:

I would take a few freezer meals. Offer to be there to listen when she needs it.

Ditto.