Today is the worst day EVER (re: cheating DH)

MikesFavoriteWife

So I told my friend about her DH. She is mad as hell. I can't tell though if it is more at me or at him. I can't worry about that though right now because I have bigger problems.

I just got a BFP. While I want to be thrilled I can't be because I am terrifed. My kid is 4 months old, and she was born via c-section. I'm so scared of the risks. I called my ob and they are going to fit me in first thing Monday. Its just not the right time right now. We wanted to wait at least a year to even try for the next one. We had one accident. ONE. If something goes wrong with this baby or this pregnancy I don't know what I will do.

Sorry if I'm rambling I'm just so upset. I'm in tears and I can't think straight. I don't know how to handle this.

me&mymonkey

I'm glad your OB is able to see you right away.  You can have your questions answered and hopefully reassure you.  I also had a c/s and Ds is 4 months so I know how much I would be freaking out if this were me.  Hugs to you!

Shellyburger

I dont know what to say but Im sorry. :Hugs:

JLS0320

Oh wow, what a day! Congrats on the BFP, I hope everything turns out ok at your doctor. How did it go over w/ your friend?

Gramyson

ohmygod, what a day! 

BabyC1

oh my goodness!!!  i'm sooo sorry you're having such a rough day.  i can't even imagine getting a bfp right now.  i think i would cry.  hang in there.  ::hugs::

runnergirl2008

I wish you tons of luck with the BFP. I imagine you're scared. Hang in there.?

lhull

You did the right thing with your friend- it'll all pan out. 

GL with the preg.  I am sure your doctor can help calm you.  You'll feel better soon!

RachandJer

So sorry!

speciphically

Wow, you're pregnant?! Congrats!! (??)

Deep breath. Things will happen the way they are meant to happen!

jeng329

That's a lot to take in in one day.  Sleep on it and maybe you will feel better about things in the days to come. 

Just because you didn't plan on it and it seems like the worst timing ever- it may be a blessing.  

 

EJS425

Wow. Congrats?! I mean I know its hard to get excited when your so scared for your health.. but I'm sure your dr. will assure you that you will be fine.. Our bodies were built for baby-business and everything will be perfect and you will have yet another, adorable LO!!

Good Luck and keep us updated!

CMDR513

Best of luck w/ everything.

MikesFavoriteWife

JLS0320:

Oh wow, what a day! Congrats on the BFP, I hope everything turns out ok at your doctor. How did it go over w/ your friend?

I went pretty bad. I think she felt like I wasn't telling her everything, but there wasn't much to tell. I don't know the dirty details. I think because of this she thinks its bs. All of this ended in a screaming match.

As far as the BFP, I really wish I could be excited but I'm not. Aside from it not being the right time I'm scared of all the risks. I can deal with the time frame (What choice do I have?), I just can't deal with the risks. I want this to be a healthy baby. It would be nice If I could come out of this healthy too.

I'm 24 years old. I know accidents happen this just isn't how I pictured my life going at this point.

eminbmore

OMG! Well, congratulations!

And from what I've read (I'm a c/s mama too) while it's preferable that you wait a year between babies, you can have repeat sections earlier and be totally fine - the year is just being very cautious.  I'm sure your doc will be able to work with you!

kellielee08

I'm sorry about your friend but you did the right thing. As far as your BFP I recently just one as well and I'm just as scared. I also had a csection so I am very nervous but thrilled at the same time. It's good your ob got you in so soon, I don't see mine until 8wks. Try and hang in there, let me know what your dr says. I'm terrified to see mine, he's prob gonna reem me a new one.

haleyw458

I'm so sorry you're having such a bad day! About the BFP...my sister's 2 kids are 14 months apart, you will be fine! I can imagine you're scared, but you just have to be strong. Everything will work out! GL!

MikesFavoriteWife

kellielee08:

I'm sorry about your friend but you did the right thing. As far as your BFP I recently just one as well and I'm just as scared. I also had a csection so I am very nervous but thrilled at the same time. It's good your ob got you in so soon, I don't see mine until 8wks. Try and hang in there, let me know what your dr says. I'm terrified to see mine, he's prob gonna reem me a new one.

Me too!!!! I just saw my OB last week and she gave me the lecture on waiting the year. Well that was my plan!!!!! Christ. I a proof that condoms SUCK.

Erin0806

I'm sorry, hun. That's a rough day.

FWIW, I thought I might be KU and was reading, reading, reading about having a repeat c/s so early, and read about LOTS of success stories. My doc wants me to wait 9 months, so I know that 4 is not ideal, but I also know they can monitor you closely. 

Hang in there. 

Dan&Maggie

I'm so sorry you've had such a crazy day. You did the right thing talking to your friend. It's too bad that she's so upset, but it's understandable that she's in shock/denial.

And congrats on the BFP. GL with everything. **hugs**

AngieandTony

Talk about a heavy day. You did the right thing with your friend now it's out of your hands. As far as the BFP I can imagine how scared you are and I hope everything is ok. Your doc will probably just moniter you extra closely. Hang in there

lmd1181

what is bfp?

MikesFavoriteWife

lmd1181:

what is bfp?

Big Fat Positive.

marianj79

try not to worry - a friend of mine has had 3 c-sections and got pg with the 2nd when the first was 2 months - pg with the 3rd when the 2nd was 6 months - no complications and 3 healthy children...good luck!!!