NOt sure if I am over-reacting, being hormonal or valid with my feelings.
I am a stay at home mom...my 26 month old son has gone thru many transitions over the past 7 months (moving twice, having a new baby a few weeks ago, etc..) Now that summer is here, I started a playgroup with my "teacher" friends (Who I have known since gradeschool) now that they are on vacation. We rotate homes each week...it's been so much fun.
My 26 month old has been a little hard to deal with since having the baby. I "chalk it up" to the baby, but I also want to "blame" my sons bahavior on being 2 and being a boy AND being a kid. When we get to playgroup, my son wants the toys that other kids are playing with, and has this new "habit" of "hugging" kids, but then falls to the ground with them <still hugging>. I know he is doing this delibreatly and to get attention. When I see him not sharing, or pushing, etc...I immediatly address the situation by showing him something else he can play with, a time out or leaving if it seems to be habitual. I am NOT allowing this bahavior to go unnoticed. I am very frusterated by his bahavior and am eager to find solutions or something else I can do to remedy this.
Well..my one friend did not go to playgroup today due to my son. I was not aware that my sons behavior was enough for someone to not attend our playdate. Everyone in the group knew what was going on except me. I am hurt by that...my one friend (who is sisters with the girl who did not come) said that her 2 year old nephew <who is 3 months older than my son> was "tramatized" by his actions and has been talking about it since our last gathering (two weeks ago). Can a 28 month old really communiate that at that age?
My son is not a "bully" and my other friends think that the mother is coddleing/babying her son. He has "issues" according to them (allergies to everything, speech delay and all around "social" issues, etc.. or to sum it up as my friends say "Her kid is a whimp!" Back in January when we all got together and HER son was "bully" my son, I used that as learning experience and never judged her as a mother/made comments about her son/avoided playdates.....
I feel hurt that she did not address her issues with me...I feel hurt that my good kid has been "labled" a bully b/c he is just being himself at the developmental age that he is.
What would you do? I want to talk to the mother directly and appologize (not sure for what since I apologize when my son bothers her son while we are playing)...at what point do we allow "kids to be kids?" I do not have her phone number (again, sister of a good friend), should I email her? Should I also say something to my good friend for embarrasing me in front of other friends (obviously something she could have said to me in private) or doI I just drop it?