Have I gone too far? (long)

sara_smile

So I know I'm using my pregnancy as an excuse, but am I taking it too far? 

 My cousin from NC called yesterday asking if he could stay at my place at the end of July while he?s in town because he doesn?t want our gramma to worry if he and his buddy are out partying late. OK so he?s my cousin, but I?ve only seen him maybe 4 times in my adult life. I?ve never met this friend of his. Is it rude that I told him no, they can?t stay at my house because I don?t want them coming in late either? BTW I think gramma will be fine? my brother lived with her for a year (after our grandpa passed away) and he used to come and go all the time!

At my house, we?ll have to deal with our dog and his dog he's bringing with him getting along. Plus, if they are going to be out drinking I don't know how I feel about my house being used as the place for drunk people to pass out. I?m pregnant I want to be able to go to sleep whenever I want! I don?t know these guys and it?s just weird and lately I just want me & DH & couch and that?s it... it has to be my hormones making me overprotective of my home or some kind of nesting thing? WDYT?

B!tchBeckman

I would have said no...but I have the experience with josh's friend and my bucket to back me up and Im just a big meanie.

Not to mention the dogs- you cant predict how they will be. I think you did an A-OK job!

getnmarried910

I wouldn't want them using my home either.  It sounds like he's using you if you've hardly seen him in recent years.  I also think your grandma would probably be hurt.

Layla116

Not unreasonable at all!  I'd do the same, exact thing, especially given that you've only seen this cousin 4 times in your adult life.

AMYfromKY

If my brother asked me I still would say no or I would give him the rules of my house.  I worry just as much as my mom so I wouldn't be able to go to sleep until he came home and you better bet it wouldn't be at 4am or something.

You did the right thing. 

jennybeams

I'd probably say no too.  I remember how I acted when I came home drunk and it was not quiet, courteous etc.  So I'd have to pass with practical strangers coming in and doing it.  I'd probably say no even if I wasnt' pg

YayMom

I would say no as well. You need to be able to get sleep and that is basically impossible with him coming in at all hours of the night. Plus, like you said, it's not like you have a deep personal relationship with him, so I don't think there would be any hurt feelings.

woolgathered

I would have said no also. I'm trying to get as much sleep as I can before 3rd trimester and when the baby comes. Plus, I am sort of unable to edit what I say when I get pissed off!!

beckys96

I would have said no too - you aren't even close to him!