My husband is driving me nuts...

p0nd77

Just need to vent a little....  It's impossible to get DH to help around the house.  He stays up late, wakes up late, and when I ask him to help clean, it always seems to end in an argument.  We both work -- really the only free time we have to pick up the place is on the weekends, when he wants to relax.  How do I get him to stop being a bump on a log and help out? 

Sheila.Scully

Good luck on that one.  I think it is a male thing.

mariahcohen

Stop doing it and  see how he feels about helping then! 

breech

i say we all get wives( in addition to out DH). it'll look weird to people BUT our houses will look great and food will always be on the table. cheaper than a maid. lol

 

p0nd77

Seriously, I think he either can't see it or likes dirt. 

topazwind

I would try writing a list of things that need to be done over the weekend, put it on the fridge or wherever he will see it. ?Tell him to pick some?things?he wants to do and you won't bug him about when they get done as long as they are done by a set time (maybe Sunday by dinner). ?As you do your stuff, cross it off, when he sees that your stuff is all done maybe he will get?motivated. ? Even if he doesn't then you have every right to nag away until his stuff gets done. ?

I have found that men are like children, and the more you let them think something is their idea, the happier they are to do it. ??

JulieandBen

This used to be me and my husband only in reverse sort of. He kept the same schedule your husband does only he didn't really work. He made money. He just didn't work often. I hated spending my weekends cleaning so we hired it out. Now our weekends are free to hang out and do a whole lotta nuthin.

KTCaliL

Oh I know how you feel. Whenever I ask DH to do something he gets pissy about it. When it really annoys me, I pick up only my stuff, only do my dishes, etc., until he notices the damn mess he makes. The mess drives me crazy, and it sounds a little childish, but it proves the point usually.

pregali80

p0nd77:

Seriously, I think he either can't see it or likes dirt. 

Yah, remember they don't smell things either. 

IloveJAV

I am right there with you..mine is driving me nuts too. On his days off all he wants to do is be lazy or go out on the boat and there is sooo much to be done around the house. He uses the excuse of "I work so hard during the week that I have to have a day to play here and there." Then it makes me feel bad....UGH MEN!

Flyswmer

Stop doing things for him.... like his laundry or cooking.  MAKE him do things for himself and he will realize how hard it is to do everything.

DH made a comment about laundry once and I stopped doing it....that changed a few things around here....