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Am I the only one....?

Am I the only one that has this irrational fear that my DH is going to witness childbirth and everything that goes along with it and never want to touch me again lol?
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  • Nope. My fiance is under strict instructions to stay by my head, hold my hand, etc the whole time. I'm not willing to risk him being unsttracted to me, and he isn't willing to risk the grossness. Stick out tongue
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  • No absolutely not!  We've not even having sex now so I can't imagine if he witnesses childbirth!  :)  But seriously, he has strict orders to keep his head by mine!  :)
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  • Meh. Am I the only one not really worried about this? I don't know, perhaps my DH is just super mature? Not sure, but I think we'll be ok.
  • Nope..just as another poster said DH has strict instructions to stay by my head and be supportive from there.  I dont want to see whats going on myself let alone take the chance that he will be scared for life.
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    Meh. Am I the only one not really worried about this? I don't know, perhaps my DH is just super mature? Not sure, but I think we'll be ok.

    I don't feel this way because of how my DH is in the maturity department, it's a simple fact of we don't know what to expect being that neither one of us has been through childbirth before...

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  • I'm not worried about that all.
  • I'm sorry but child birth is gross and I don't even want to see that.  Go ahead and flame me and tell me what a beautiful thing it is, I don't care.  I find it disgusting.  I'm glad it happens and I'm more than willing to go through it to get my LO here but I will not be watching (mirror) and DH wouldn't dream of being anywhere other than right by my side, looking only at my face.
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    Meh. Am I the only one not really worried about this? I don't know, perhaps my DH is just super mature? Not sure, but I think we'll be ok.

     I'm not concerned at all. My DH is so excited about this pregnancy... he WANTS me to be bigger right now. Maybe I'm just completely secure in his love for me, and my body, but I really don't want him to miss the birth of his daughter. 

    Now, whether he'll pass out after seeing it... thats another story...

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  • DH is staying up by my head of his own free will.  He does't want to see.  Not because he's afraid he'll never be attracted to me again, but b/c he might pass out.  Even yesterday during the u/s, he was freaked out because he could "see" the baby's organs.  He said, "I just kept thinking, 'I'm having a son... and that's what it would look like if someone skewered him...'"  I was cracking up when he said that.
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  • DH watched my son being born and he couldn't wait to do the deed when the doctor gave me the greenlight.
  • I'm also nervous about this.

  • no, but not that it's the same...but DH has seen it all so far. He has witnessed a pap smear, internal u/s's and of course the bad things (m/c's) He has had to help change me.
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  • nope!! im good! my dh witnessed it all and he was always all over me sexually.. and now even more!!!    i loveeeee my dh!!!lol
  • It has nothing to do with maturity, but I don't want my DH to watch from down there either. ?He did see some of Layla being born, but not the frontal version. ?

    I know they look at 'it' differently after seeing the birth like that, DH's bff (lol) told him right in front of me, which I wish never would have happened.

    It's not something I want to watch & it's not something I'm comfortable with others watching. ?

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    imageJenn.J.:
    Meh. Am I the only one not really worried about this? I don't know, perhaps my DH is just super mature? Not sure, but I think we'll be ok.

     I'm not concerned at all. My DH is so excited about this pregnancy... he WANTS me to be bigger right now. Maybe I'm just completely secure in his love for me, and my body, but I really don't want him to miss the birth of his daughter. 

    Now, whether he'll pass out after seeing it... thats another story...

    Haha, exactly!

  • I keep asking DH if he's ok with possibly seeing me poop, LOL

    He says yes.  I'm trying not to be worried

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  • I was very nervous about this the first time.  The birthing videos were very hard for him to watch in class and I figured he'd stay by my head the whole time. I didn't even want to watch it myself!  

    Once her head started to come out, the doc asked if I wanted to see it.  Surprisingly, I did!  I asked my husband if he wanted to see, expecting him to look at me like I had a third head but he actually went down there and watched the rest of the delivery.  He now says he is so glad he did.

      It definitely didn't affect our sex life in any way and if anything I think he respects what I went through even more! 

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    imageJenn.J.:
    Meh. Am I the only one not really worried about this? I don't know, perhaps my DH is just super mature? Not sure, but I think we'll be ok.

    I don't feel this way because of how my DH is in the maturity department, it's a simple fact of we don't know what to expect being that neither one of us has been through childbirth before...

    I've been there for two births and gotten the close ups, i really hope that my dh dosnt have to see that, he will be by my head the entire time.

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  • I totally understand but don't have that fear with my husband.  I'm just terrified he's gonna pass out or throw up
  • I don't think I have to worry about that for the simple fact that if he was down by all the action he would end up in the emergency room... Stick out tongue

    OTHERWISE... this would be a HUGE fear of mine

  • I'm totally worried about it, but my husband is not concerned in the least.  I guess we're just gonna play it by ear and see what happens at the time.  He says my concern is ridiculous and he will always love me and find me attractive no matter what.  He also said that having his baby would make him love me more.
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    I had that fear too and was telling him he could only stay by my head. Then our BF's just had their baby and the Dad said he would never talk to me again if I didn't let DH watch becasue it is such an amazing thing to see.
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  • I have no fear that my DH will never want to touch me after giving birth. 

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    Seriously, my husband held a leg & watched the entire thing & cut the cord & was amazing as a partner for the first & second kids.. obviously he is still cool with "it" since I am pregnant again.  He has more respect for me for what giving birth than over how it looked.  He said it wasn't pretty, but then again he caught a glimpse of the episotomy & stitches post birth.. but that is not what child birth is about.  But then again he thinks I am sexy when I am pregnant ; ) I feel lucky!
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  • I wasn't nervous until I read this post and then I started to think about it. Haha! I guess DH and I need to talk about that part!
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