Silly Question...

sarahkatherine8

When will my sweet Jackson start preferring me to all others? My friend has a 10 week old 36weeker that already does this. Do all babies even do this? Jackson is already much quicker to calm when I hold him, but I think that is because I just know what to do & what he likes. I guess I'm still feeling that possessiveness and really look forward to the day MIL picks him up and he starts bawling & only stops when I pick him up. And when he's older reaches out for only me.

Am I being weird? A horrible person for wishing attatchement issues onto my child? Simply still feeling resentment torwards MIL that fails to wane?

Anyone else want to confess to feeling this way? Or e-slap me & tell me to stop it??

Thanks ladies. Couldn't wait for Mad Mondays I guess

TriciaJoy

I can't really answer "when" because it sounds like he's well on his way.

As for when he'll wail at the sight of someone else, that usually happens months later. And for Robbie, at least, some of it is mood. He usually loves my MIL but when he was in the hospital in February he would catch sight of her and burst into tears. The next time he saw her, back to normal. Just depends.

And trust me.. knowing what he likes and how he likes it is part of him preferring you.

But yes, I felt the same way. More about the nurses than family because our families really didn't hold him much in the NICU.. but sometimes I found myself jealous of the nurses who could be with him all the time.

 

clyoungsey

As an instructor of Human Growth & Deveopment, I can tell you the theories say around 16 weeks.  All babies are different and I am not sure how prematurity may play into it.

sarahkatherine8

Thanks Ladies, that makes me feel much better. A little less insane. And looking forward to growing an even stronger bond with my Jackson

Mrs. Destructo

I'll be honest with you: my heart sings with glee every time they cry when MiL is around, because they never, ever go to her for comfort - always to me. I might be a little insane, but I LOVE it. LOVE it.  And my kids are almost 2 now.

 It sounds like your sweet angel is well on his way to preferring you over everybody else. Give it a little more time, as he becomes more aware of the world around him, he'll also realize that you are the momma and the most important person in his universe. 

NotJustAnAuntie

Max is almost 15 months actual, and we *still* haven't had any separatiob anxiety... I'm hoping he's just chill and that it isn't suddenly going to catch up with him! LOL

sarahkatherine8

Mrs. Destructo:

I'll be honest with you: my heart sings with glee every time they cry when MiL is around, because they never, ever go to her for comfort - always to me. I might be a little insane, but I LOVE it. LOVE it.  And my kids are almost 2 now.

This response makes me so happy. No, I don't think you are insane. I think it's awesome

sarahkatherine8

I gotta say it's a darn good thing I have a blog to vent about these things. Or else I'd have Mad Monday posting smattered over this board every day!

SWMcFarland

Lily has started, to some extent.  She either wants me or my mom.  I feel bad for my husband, because she really doesn't want him.  My mom leaves (finally!!) next weekend so hopefully that will change, at least for DH.