Mom vent- more like complaining I guess

AJluvsLI

For some reason I've always had a very hard time being patient with my mom.  I don't know why, it's just harder for me to let things go that come from her than it would be if they had come from a complete stranger.

Anyway, as I mentioned before she's staying with us until August and some things have just been driving me crazy.  I just feel like, whether the person is family or not, when you are staying at somebody's house for free, share meals with them, use their stuff, and get rides to places all the time- you shouldn't always be making comments about how annoying it is that the pilot light in the water heater went out and had to be relit and how our can opener isn't good enough, seriously a can opener- go buy your own if you don't like it.  Ugh.

It's not fun for DH and I either when stuff goes wrong but we don't throw a hissy fit about it or bring it up for days following the event.  There are some things that you have no control over and you just have to deal with them.

And I guess when she complains about it I get bothered because I know DH and I are really lucky to have our own house.  Yes, it has problems but not very many couples are homeowners as soon as they get married, especially not around here.  

When she makes comments like that it offends me because DH does a lot for our family and for me and I know comments like that can make him feel like he isn't doing enough and like what we have isn't enough.  I don't really feel like it's her place to offer up comments like that when I am content with our living situation and what DH does is more than enough for me and more than I could have ever hoped for (I always pictured my first years married living in a crappy apartment eating Ramen noodle every night).   

*sigh*  I really appreciate the help she gives me while she is here, but some of the other things she says and does I can really do without.  I don't know how I am going to survive. 

Fuzzypeaches

Why is your mom living with you for the summer?
That does not sound like fun

Sorry it sucks so much...my mom and I have a great relationship but I would probably want to scream at her if she moved in with me too.

AJluvsLI

She came out here to watch my sister's baby while she and her husband went to Tahiti and decided to stay and help since I'm pregnant. 

She's also taking some classes at the local university while she's here because she was doign online classes but some have to be done on campus. 

Saran

I feel for ya but I was cracking up reading your post when you said if someone is staying at your house for free, with meals and gives you rides to places etc......., cause I'm like, "it sounds like what our parents do for us when we're kids. And we complain about our parents, etc...." The roles are now reversed. LOL On a serious note, when my mom comes to visit I'm usually ready to put her back on the plane after 2 weeks! But I remind myself that she can complain about whatever she wants after what I put her thru as a teenager and with all the money I owe her over the years. LOL

Good Luck

AJluvsLI

haha I never thought of it that way.  Good point.