Worried about DH......

Knottie1463608191

When he got up this morning, I could tell something was bothering him and i asked if he was ok. He told me he was fine. I've been cleaning all weekend (family coming to visit tomorrow) so I've been kind of busy.
I was cleaning the bathroom and when I came out, I asked DS where Daddy was and he told me he was in our room laying down. ( I got a little perturbed seeing as how there are things that need to be done!)

I trotted off to Walmart for 15 minutes and when I get back, DH is outside, smoking a cig and crying. Now, mind you, I have been with him for 14 years and have seen him cry, maybe 4 times (when his g-ma died, we broke up for a short time, and when DS was born. (I'm sure there is another, I just can't think of it right now.)

He is now out and "driving around" and left his phone at home. I don't know what to do. He says he's not sure what is bothering him. I wish I could help, but I think at this time, the best thing to do is let him be... What do you think?

anthea comas

Men are so funny like that. The other day I could tell my DH was really upset, but he refused to admit that he is down or upset about anything. He later snapped out of it and admitted he was down about not having found a job yet (he just graduated 2 months ago.) He would NOT admit it at the time.

I think men not admitting they are upset is a bit of a machismo thing. Just be extra sweet to him and he will open up. Sometimes going for a walk together is a great way to start a conversation.

chelsearenee

Tough one.  Maybe he is having sympathy pregnant hormones.  Give him some time.  Maybe ask again if there is anything you can do.  Don't stress about the chores, I am sure the house is clean enough.  His health is more important.

Saran

One thing you can't do with men is force them to talk especially about what they're feeling. Eventhough it would be nice for him to help you out around the house, just leave him alone and give him some space. He'll be more apt to come to you to talk about what's bothering him if you give him space right now. GL

grace_smith03

Aw, sorry to hear that. I guess it's always a game of giving them space while still remaining accessible/caring. It sux, and hope he snaps out of it soon. gl!