My horrific night- need advice- long sorry.

lizzyjames · June 2009

Addy has just transitioned to the new toddler room where her naps have gone from 30 minutes to 2 hours. She's been fighting sleep lately so last night I made the brilliant decision it keep her up an hour later thinking that this might help her sleep better.

We did her bedtime routine no issue. She started to doze and the minute I got out of the chair to put her in her crib....crying. Then more crying. I decided to put her down anyway and see if she would just fuss/cry to sleep. She's done this before and normally within about a minute or two she quiets down. It's never been an issue.

Nope. Screaming. She started screaming to the point of choking and coughing. So of course I go in there to pick her up and rock her. Still screaming. Screams when I rock her, screams when I walk around the room, freaks out when I get near the crib.

This is about 20 minutes after I had already given her motrin and orajel thinking it was her teeth. I also gave her mylicon thinking it was gas.

DH comes in and takes her out of her room into the living room and instantly she stops crying and perks up. Starts pointing at books and stuff.

He thinks we need to just let her stay up until she falls asleep, I know she is tired because she keeps rubbing her eyes and was almost asleep the first time I put her down. And if I let her stay up, like I did on Saturday at his suggestion, she will stay up until 10:30 and we have to be up at 6:30. Not an option. She needs her sleep, IMO.

I take her back in her room. The minute I walk through the door, screaming. I don't know what to do at this point so I just let her scream while I hold her and sing.

Finally around midnight after she had exhausted herself and drank another 2.5 bottles, I put her in her crib asleep with a pillow and she almost started crying again, but the pillow I think comforted her.

So I stayed awake, now paranoid that she is going to suffocate with the new introduction of the pillow, but it seemed to help.

Thoughts?? Obviously CIO is not going to work for her because she literally made herself sick last night with her carrying on and I refuse to allow that.

Do I need to just go buy a bigger bed so we can cosleep until she's 17?

We have a routine, I've put her down drowsy before and she always puts herself to sleep no problem.

I'm mentally drained. AND DH having such a hard time with the cat and then having her scream her head off caused him to be really really really not a sweet supportive husband. He got kicked out for a couple of hours.

lizzyjames · June 2009

Wow that is long.

MrsTotty · June 2009

I'm at a loss hon ... mostly because once Jack hit 6-7 months ... he would just put himself to sleep. The only time we ever had to do CIO was in the middle of the night if he would wake up then. All I would say is pick a schedule and stick to it. If you have to go back in and rock her/check on her fine ... but pick a time, start a nightime routine and follow it. She might just be going through a phase right now.

I'm sorry, I just reread that and know that this was absolutely no help

lizzyjames · June 2009

I know that tonight I'm going back to my regimented routine of she's down at 8 and if DH walks in her room past 8 he is getting shanked.

I'm really really scared that now the minute we start her normal routine and head to her room she is going to freak out. I think last night was pretty traumatic for her.

gigimarie · June 2009

Oh how I feel for you and can definitely relate.

When Sophia was in the infant room she would maybe take a 45min - 1 hour nap if they were lucky and now that she is in the toddler room sleeps anywhere from 1.5 - 2.5 hours. She had a heck of a time adjusting to the room and schedule and during this adjustment time her bedtime schedule was screwed. We had a few nights like you described where she just screamed and screamed. We tried everything thinking like you it was teething related and it may have been, but I really think it had to do with her new transition. For us we made sure to stay in her room and just tagged team holding, rocking and walking her room. I just repeated over and over that it was night-night time and I was not letting her down to play. I think we had about 4 nights of this and she went back to her normal self. Good luck I know how frustrating it is!

CreamPuff06 · June 2009

I really don't know how to answer you other than say that sticking to your routine might be the best thing possible. Maybe once she's used to the new room it will be better?

katherinemichel · June 2009

Sorry, no advice. I'm just sorry about your awful night. I hope tonight is better.

flygeah · June 2009

gigimarie:
Oh how I feel for you and can definitely relate. When Sophia was in the infant room she would maybe take a 45min - 1 hour nap if they were lucky and now that she is in the toddler room sleeps anywhere from 1.5 - 2.5 hours. She had a heck of a time adjusting to the room and schedule and during this adjustment time her bedtime schedule was screwed. We had a few nights like you described where she just screamed and screamed. We tried everything thinking like you it was teething related and it may have been, but I really think it had to do with her new transition. For us we made sure to stay in her room and just tagged team holding, rocking and walking her room. I just repeated over and over that it was night-night time and I was not letting her down to play. I think we had about 4 nights of this and she went back to her normal self. Good luck I know how frustrating it is!

ditto this...

When Keanan first transitioned to the toddler room it was really rough on him and us. We had about a full week of nights like that, which was really hard because he was still in our room at that time. I would say to stick to the routine, she will get adjusted in a few days.

((Hugs)) I know how hard that is, it will get better.

lizzyjames · June 2009

flygeah:

gigimarie:
Oh how I feel for you and can definitely relate. When Sophia was in the infant room she would maybe take a 45min - 1 hour nap if they were lucky and now that she is in the toddler room sleeps anywhere from 1.5 - 2.5 hours. She had a heck of a time adjusting to the room and schedule and during this adjustment time her bedtime schedule was screwed. We had a few nights like you described where she just screamed and screamed. We tried everything thinking like you it was teething related and it may have been, but I really think it had to do with her new transition. For us we made sure to stay in her room and just tagged team holding, rocking and walking her room. I just repeated over and over that it was night-night time and I was not letting her down to play. I think we had about 4 nights of this and she went back to her normal self. Good luck I know how frustrating it is!

ditto this...

When Keanan first transitioned to the toddler room it was really rough on him and us. We had about a full week of nights like that, which was really hard because he was still in our room at that time. I would say to stick to the routine, she will get adjusted in a few days.

((Hugs)) I know how hard that is, it will get better.

This actually helps me feel better. Thank you.

Jessibell · June 2009

I am with the other ladies. Stick to your routine. Nights like that are the worst. I'm so sorry. I know how drained you must be

avz2azb · June 2009

I don't have anything new to say. I just wanted to give you some virtual support. It looks like you got some good advice. I hope bed time gets better soon!