Am I overreacting re. solids at daycare?

C.squared

I think I'm probably over reacting, so just wondered what the common opinion was before I say anything else.  I usually send a weeks worth of jarred food for my DD to leave at daycare.  They know that I'm working on table foods with her at home and asked me if they could give her the fresh fruit that they have at the daycare.  I told them she could have the peaches, pears, and bananas (those are the only ones they have that she's been introduced to).  Sometimes they give her this instead of the jarred food, which is fine with me as long as she's eating enough of it.  There have been a few times now, though, where they've given her something that they are serving for lunch (that she hasn't been introduced to) and tell me about it after the fact.  We do have a family history of food allergies, so I'm trying to be pretty careful about watching her for a reaction.  I've told the daycare workers several times just to ask before they feed her something that they haven't seen me send before, but it happened again yesterday.  I don't think it's a huge deal, because DD hasn't had a reaction, but I also don't think it's too much to ask to have them ask if it's ok first.  Sorry so long...  WDYT - do I say something to the director, try again with the teachers, or let it go?  I'm trying not to be too crazy about it...

Court0026

I personally think that is unacceptable.  You are the parent and as long as you are clearly telling/asking what you would like done, I don't understand why that is too hard to follow?  You aren't requesting anything unreasonable.  I don't know if I would bother with the teachers again or go to the director?  Not sure, but I don't think you should let it go. 

ncsubride

You are not overreacting she is your baby and you are the boss and make the rules.  I would make an appointment to speak with the director and get everyone on the same page.

LittleApple

I would be pissed too,?considering?the fact that you have a history of food allergies. ?Speak with the teachers and if they continue, then go to the director.

SpecialWife

ncsubride:

You are not overreacting she is your baby and you are the boss and make the rules.  I would make an appointment to speak with the director and get everyone on the same page.

I agree with pp. As someone who worked at a daycare and was a nanny during college- I would never have done something like that without checking with mom/dad first. That behavior is just inappropriate.

jade_sweatpea

I don't think you are overreacting at all and yes I would say something to them about this.

6fsn

I would definitely say something and have.  We haven't given pasta yet and the other day they were giving DS egg noodles.  I had food allergies as a kid and I'm trying to be very careful with DS.

He's fine, but I wasn't happy.

beckys96

Depending on how many times this has happened I would probably tell the director.  If its only been like 2 times - I would probably try one more time with the teachers.  There is no reason they can't listen to your orders.