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NBR: Would you go? (sorry, it's long...)
Hi ladies, I feel kind of silly posting this here since I'm not PG yet - but honestly I spent way more time over here than on the Nest these days and have come to really value your opinions. ?Having said that, here is my dilemma: I have been asked by my boss to go on a business trip, which is fine in and of itself, but the catch is that its a four week business trip......
I work on a team that handles a special?project. ?There is one other site in Baltimore that does our same job and they're floundering. ?So my boss has asked me and one other co-worker (who happens to be a good friend of mine) to go there for a month and help them out. ?Its a huge honor to be asked to train this other team, and I'm super flattered to be asked. ?If it was for a week, even two weeks, I wouldn't have a second thought, but a month is such a long time.
Here are my hangups:
We're in the long process of buying a house (its a short sale so who knows how much longer it'll take), but we can't close without me here so if the bank accepts our offer while I'm gone, we have to wait till I get home to close. ?We're also trying to sell our condo, so leaving all that up to DH doesn't seem fair. ?
My second issue is that I'm on a medication that I have to get by injection once a week - its a self injecting pen that I *could* do by myself, but it really hurts so DH always does it (he's my hero)....so I'd have to learn to suck it up and do it for myself for three shots. ?
Finally, we are TTC - what if I find out I'm PG while I'm there, am I supposed to share that info with DH over the phone??
But it would be a great career move, and a great experience. ?If I were single I wouldn't think twice about going even for the long period of time. ?But my life is more complicated now, and I don't want DH to feel abandoned. ?He said its completely up to me and he didn't want me to say no just because of him. ?I've already said yes to my boss, but have been having second thoughts all afternoon. ?I wish I could go for a shorter time period.
Would you go? TIA, I'm just kind of overwhelmed by the idea....
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Re: NBR: Would you go? (sorry, it's long...)
I would go. Can you come home for 1 weekend out of the month you will be there? That would make things a bit easier on you.
People buy and sell houses all the time from across the country, so i would think you could sign all the nessessary papers and have them Fed -Ex'd or faxed if need be.....
The shot, that is tough. Could you have your friend do it?
If you were PG, could you wait to tell DH when you got home, or do it via Skype or something so you could see him when you tell him??
I'd try to get your boss to let you come home for at least 1 weekend!
Could you get your boss to agree to giving you a long weekend in themiddle and fly you home and back? That would possibly help the short sale issue, the PG issue (you could wait until you saw DH to tell him if it was just 2 weeks) and part of the shot issue.
I think I would do it. I think it's good to boost your career before you have kids so you can slack a little bit when you have the kiddo (at least it's working well for me!)
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I think I would probably go if I were you. I'd miss DH like crazy, but it would be a good experience.
As for the house, they can probably fax you the paper work if it closes while you are gone. We've done this while trying to sell a house from 6 hours away and it worked.
Is there anyway that you can travel home on a weekend(s)? That way you can see DH and also if you find out you are pregnant you can share the news with him then.
I would think that your agent would be able to make the closing work long-distance. ?There has to be a way to do it without you physically present. ?What about doing a power of attorney?
I think I'd choose to go. ?(Things are different now that I have Evie, but I would have gone in my pre-Evie days). ?Is there any way you can fly back after a couple of weeks, or fly your DH out to see you? ?I think it'll be worth it in the long run.?
Yeah I'd go.
Closing papers can be fedex'd pretty easily.
You can learn to do the injections. I do a 2x a day injection to myself now. It sucks, but you can do it. Or worst case, you can talk to your doc and see if he can set something up for you at a walk in clinic or a local hospital to get someone there to administer it for you.
And I agree - see if you can go home for the weekend in the middle. Even if that means you buy your own plane ticket, maybe that would help.
I'd totally go, but put your stipulations in there and definitely make provision for a weekend trip home. I used to be on the road 50% of the year and totally let my company walk all over me and my travel schedule was horrendous. By year two, I learned I could call the shots when I had long stints away. So DEFINITELY make time for you and your hubby. It's important.
Careers are great and important, but business trips come and go. You don't get that time back so just make sure you make the time work for YOU :-)
Sounds fun! Also sounds like you have a ton going on in your life right now, how exciting!
Let us know what you decide.
In that case, I would definitely do it. The closing stuff can be handled long distance if it needs to be. The injection thing is probably something that will be hard but that you will be glad you overcame. And, since DH is coming out to visit you, if you do get a BFP, you can share it with him in a special way. Plus, once future DC arrives, you will find yourself saying no to these types of opportunities. I would do it now while you can
I haven't read any of the responses yet but I say GO! Undapants will be fine and if he thought it would be a burden, I'm sure he would have told you so.
Don't think about it anymore...just go...just think of the awesome sex you'll have when you get back....babies!
Plus you know what a career hooker I am
?This totally sums up why I think you're awesome, T....its so true. ?Undapants will be fine
- I'm just going to miss him so much! ?
I think I'm gonna go! ?Everyone is right - I?definitely?won't be able to do things like this when I have kids, so now is a good time to earn some brownie points at work! ?Thanks so much for all your thoughts, I needed it!!!
Oh I think you should go. How exciting!!! When are you supposed to leave? We will miss you woman!
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