Baby Fears

kaskade

DH and I had a good baby talk at dinner last night.  I asked him what his fears were about when we finally become parents.  His only fear is giving up sleeping in and the fun stuff he gets to do [golf every Friday, Husky football season tickets...]

I was shocked.  That's it?!  He drug his feet for months and that's really it?!  I'm hoping he just didn't elaborate.  My list of fears is enormous - can I work f/t and be a good mother? Will being away from work for a few months erode my hardworking reputation?  Will I be able to have a healthy pregnancy?  Will I ever get back in shape?  Will my baby have any of the wacky health problems that run in our families?  The list goes on.

Anyone else in this boat?  I really can't believe that's his only fear.  But, then again, he is a guy.  Maybe that's as far as he's thought...or maybe I'm going to be the worrier in the family.

Alli923

We are the exact opposite! DH was/is the big worrier and I'm not (at least as far as parenthood is concerned).  He insisted on genetic testing, was worried for a long time that I will die in childbirth, worried he won't be a good dad, worried about the cost, etc, etc.

The more we talked about it and through it, the more comfortable he's become with having a baby.  Now, he mostly excited and just a little worried. 

mishquiche

I have most of the same fears as you, plus a whole lot more.  DH is mainly worried about things from a financial standpoint.  He seems to think he will make a great father.  Of course, I agree.

Seattle_JiLLn

I will say though that those are good things to be afraid of.  The sleep deprivation and the huge change in your ability to be in charge of your own life are really the biggest day to day things to be worried about IMO.   It's good that he realizes that his life would really change...

kaskade

Seattle_JiLLn:

I will say though that those are good things to be afraid of.  The sleep deprivation and the huge change in your ability to be in charge of your own life are really the biggest day to day things to be worried about IMO.   It's good that he realizes that his life would really change...

I bet he's probably got the most realistic fears and I have the more outlandish ones...but that's about par for the course for us.  I worry about long term and he worries about short term.  It does balance us out a bit!

Mrs.Kiltlifter

I carry all those worries.  I definitely worry about working full time and parenting.  I know daycare babies are fine.  I was one and look at how I turned out. But it still does not mean that I don't worry about the unknowns and the what ifs!

nykola

I'd say I'm probably more neurotic than DH. He's all easy breezy, beautiful cover girl about most things EXCEPT for the stuff he reads on the internet. UGH. But I'm not about motherhood. More about all the other tertiary planning stuff that is also important. Which is why we found out the sex of the child in advance....my neurosis :-)  I've never had qualms about motherhood or sleep deprivation or having to be sacrificial with my life or any of that.  I've had good examples around me of people in my age bracket, so it makes me feel more confident.  Plus, I know I'm not alone in this.