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It Finally Seems Real

PSU-NCBridePSU-NCBride
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I hadn't posted an update on us for a bit....?

I'm not sure if this is normal, but the last 7 weeks have really felt surreal to me. I'm assuming it is because I was never pregnant or had people ooooohing and awwwwing over me or had a real baby shower. Plus we only had 2 weeks between match and placement. I have loved him with all my heart but I kept feeling like I was going to wake up from this dream and be back in the waiting and hoping stages.?

I look back at the day he was born and wish we could do it all over again. I had never even been in a maternity ward before, net alone a delivery room. The whole thing just felt like a dream. I don't want to redo the first 3 weeks of no sleep, though!

Anyway, we had a photoshoot over the weekend. I think seeing some of the pictures of us with our beautiful son started making it feel actually real. Then last night we went out for a client event for my husband's work and had our first babysitting experience. As we were out I kept thinking of him and wanting to be cuddling him. I think that really did it for me. I'm so in love.?

For all of you who are waiting and feeling discouraged, I just wanted to tell you to hang in there. I came very very close to giving up. I thank God every day that my husband convinced me to hang in there. ?

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  • MyColonyNJMyColonyNJ
    yay for it feeling real.  soon it will feel like he was always there
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  • LadyRed7LadyRed7

    thank you so much for posting this.

    Even though we just signed on, we feel like it is still so far away and with an issue we are now encountering with our RE's office this week, we felt like throwing in the towel altogether this week.

    I am going to show MH this post! 

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  • noonecarewhoiamnoonecarewhoiam

    That's awesome! I remember being there--I felt like I was babysitting and waiting for the parents to come home! At one point, I woke up at night to a crying baby and though "would that kid's Mom PLEASE get him?"

    After a while, your kid is your kid--and adoption is just part of your story.

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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member
    awww that's great! once the shock wears off and they start to let you get more sleep - I think that's when the true love bubbles to the surface.
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  • FinallyMrs.GFinallyMrs.G
    Awww! How precious! I can only imagine at this point. That makes me so excited! Thanks for sharing.
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I, also, thank you for sharing this.  I've had a really rough week, with the adoption, work, and a few other things, and it's stories like these that make it easier to deal with the heartache.

    I am very happy for you that your new life is becoming real, and transitioning into your "new normal."  I wish you and your family nothing but happiness together.

    As an off-shoot, I've often looked for some kind of book on "instant parenthood."  I can't imagine what it must be like to go from never being a parent, never being pregnant, and--boom!--you are now fully responsible for this little life.  I think I am particularly nervous because we're adopting an older child (or two!  (double-triple yikes!)), who will be at a stage where they are uncertain everything going on and testing us.  I can't imagine how much our life will change...in an instant.

    Why can't I find any books that deal with this?!?

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