Pedi told me I had to start thinking....

KNemo

about moving M out of our room.

Right now, he is sleeping in a bassinet, next to our bed. He is totally outgrowing it. We have a crib, but I am not ready to make the leap of actually moving him out. Our pedi said it was best to do it sooner, rather than later and that the at the last thing we wanted was to have an alert 6-month-old in our room (always trying to get our attention instead of sleeping).

For those of you, who didn't have baby in a nursery to start off with, when did you move DC to their own room. This is breaking my mommy heart, but I know that I need to do it for my sanity later. Ugh!

scarletii

your pedi has me fuming!  It is your baby!  You can move him out whenever you want!  Now, if he is getting close to the weight limit, you shouldn't put him in the bassinett, but there's nothing that says you have to move him out.  I've heard that it's easier to do it by 6 months.  but you are the mom here and you can do what's best for YOUR family!

 vent over!

 (I didn't move either of my kids to the nursery until about 3 months.)

Jas*sGirl

We did it at about 1 month.  I could not sleep with her little noises...I would jump up and check on her, and then this would wake her up in the process.  We actually just moved her PnP into her room and she slept in that till almost 4 months...then we transitioned her into her crib.  In all honesty everyone slept A LOT better once she was in her nursery!  Hugs mommy!!!

llking_2984

I can't help with when you should do this but I can give you advice why you should do it. All 3 of my stepkids were allowed to sleep with DH and his ex for the longest time. Then as they got older they were allowed to come crawl into bed in the middle of the night with them until they were about 5 or so. And we aren't talking every once in a while, we are talking every night! When DH and I met, his oldest was 6, middle 4 and youngest 1 1/2. I would wake up in the middle of the night and have no bed with DH because I had a bed full of kids. When I made a point of talking to DH about it, he told them they had to sleep in their own beds. Then I would wake up in the morning to a floor full of kids. It was really really hard to break. TRUST ME! Now they all sleep in their own rooms but it really took a while with the older ones. With DS who was 1 1/2 it was a lot easier but still hard. GL though. I know you can do it. Just know, you will still have that special Mommy time with him even if he isn't right next to you. And you never know, he might actually sleep better too. =]

JRS72206

I moved Isabelle just before 2 months old, but we were co-sleeping. I eased myself into it by putting her to sleep in her crib and the first time she woke I brought her to bed with me. I kept doing this until 7 months, but now if she wakes up I rock her back to sleep. I wish she would still sleep when I brought her to our bed, but now she thinks its fun and won't sleep. I miss it.

pixelvixen

It's really whatever you want.  We still have DS in a bassinet next to our bed, and he's almost 5mo old!  I love him next to me and I'm not ready to move him out just yet.  I love when he wakes up in the morning and his little head pops up and looks for me.    The transition will be hard but I plan on moving the bassinet further and further away from the bed until it's actually IN his nursery.  Then into the crib.

I'm really surprised your Ped stressed this issue with you.  Max is still so young!

cwhip77

Mikayla still sleeps in our room.  Out of necessity though, we live in a 1 bedroom condo.  I'm hoping, hoping, hoping that we'll be able to move into a bigger place later this summer.

That being said, we don't have any problems with her crib being in our room.  We put her to bed around 8 and she sleeps just fine.  We do have to be quiet when we head to bed, but it's not a big deal.  I can maybe see co-sleeping as something you might not want to do for long, but I don't really see the problem with having Max in his own crib in your room if you want.

llking_2984

scarletii:

your pedi has me fuming!  It is your baby!  You can move him out whenever you want!  Now, if he is getting close to the weight limit, you shouldn't put him in the bassinett, but there's nothing that says you have to move him out.  I've heard that it's easier to do it by 6 months.  but you are the mom here and you can do what's best for YOUR family!

 vent over!

 (I didn't move either of my kids to the nursery until about 3 months.)

But I do agree with this that it's your choice no one elses! Do what you want to do. And Max is still young. My comment was just saying why you should do it once it's the right time for you. I hope I made sense in what I was saying because everything I say lately makes no sense lol.

~Lynchie~

I also find it strange when pedis tell parents to move the baby out of their room... I really think its none of the pedis business where your baby sleeps as long as the baby isnt in danger.  I say move him whenever you want and if youre not ready, dont move him!

livy91606

eh, Makenna is still in my room.  I'm  not ready for her to be all the way down stairs at the other end of the house (where her nursery is). 

pinktulips

We co-slept until 10 months. I moved her because she was starting to get crazy in her sleep and move everywhere.

You do what feels right to you.

JDCSKF

We were cosleeping until DD was 6 months old, then it was a necessity for us to move her out so we could get some sleep. This time last summer we started cosleeping again, but by fall she was sleeping in her room again.

It's all about the limits you want to set, not what your pedi says the limits are. As long as your child is safe and getting rest, do what you feel is right.

IdahoGirl

I'm with PPers on this one - do it when you're ready.

Mads still sleeps in our room - and I'm starting to get ready to move her out, but not just yet.

stacylu

We moved her around 3 months.

Seattle_JiLLn

First off, please remember that peds go to MEDICAL school, not PARENTING school.  Where your child sleeps is NOT a medical issue, it's an issue for your family.

If it is breaking your heart, don't do it.  You're not ready.  You do need to get him into a safe place to sleep, whatever that is.  Put the Pack N Play in your room if he's too big for the bassinet. 

and FWIW, Ben slept in our room until a little past 6 months old.  He never tried to get our attention instead of sleeping.  In fact, he STTN when he was in our room.   Like a dream  10-7.  Every night.  So tell your ped to stick it up his butt.   Just cuz his kid did something doesn't mean yours will.

I hate hate hate when people tell you you have to do smething NOW or it will be harder later.  Really?  For every kid?  Doubtful.  And for most kids, sas they get older, they develop new skills and new ways of adapting and coping.  and so older kids can understand changes better in many ways. 

Go with your gut.  Do what YOU want to do.

KNemo

I don't want him to leave!! So I'm not going to do it! Na-na-na-na-na!!

The childishness set aside, we have the crib set up in our room and I think I will focus on that transition first. Moving him across the room is stressing me out enough. Don't even want to think about putting him in the nursery. 

He is too big for his bassinet, that it why we have to move him out (24.25 inches and over 14 lbs, yeah!) But I don't want him out of our room yet. I think I will be ready when he is 6 months, but not before.

(In defense of pedi, it was a suggestion to try and get mister to sleep longer stretches, not to break the mommy-baby bond or be bossy)

Seattle_JiLLn

p.s. they're only babies once.  you don't need to force them to grow up any faster than you and they are ready.

jen_and_tom

scarletii:

your pedi has me fuming!  It is your baby!  You can move him out whenever you want!  Now, if he is getting close to the weight limit, you shouldn't put him in the bassinett, but there's nothing that says you have to move him out.  I've heard that it's easier to do it by 6 months.  but you are the mom here and you can do what's best for YOUR family!

 

this.

 I agree with the principle that it's easier to transition them before 6 months but IMO if it's not broken, why change?  DD still sleeps with us and honestly we have no plans of changing that until she's ready.  We didn't plan on being a co-sleeping family but it just feels right.  My take is that she'll move when she's ready and quite frankly, she'll probably be ready to leave before I am ready for her to.  DD is all about sleep in our bed and most certainly does not think it's play time.  I love her cuddles through the night and even more love waking up with my two favorite people every morning. 

jen_and_tom

Seattle_JiLLn:

First off, please remember that peds go to MEDICAL school, not PARENTING school. 

 

amen to this.

AND this:

 

Seattle_JiLLn:

p.s. they're only babies once.  you don't need to force them to grow up any faster than you and they are ready. 

 

One piece of advice that I live by that I learned from a very wise Ann Keppler (co-author of Pregnancy, Childbirth and the Newborn) at First Weeks was this:

"Baby your babies so you won't have to baby your children"

IkesHawaiian06

I didn't read the other responses

But Uh... Emma is almost 14 months and still sleeps with us sometimes. Our pedi said that if we were okay with co-sleeping, then we could do it until we felt comfortable putting her in her own bed. She usually falls asleep in her crib and when she wakes up really early, we bring her to bed with us. I think that if he has outgrown his bassinet, then you may have to find another way to have him sleep in your room with you, whether that's co-sleeping or moving his crib into your room. Do what works for you. If you're not comfortable moving him, dont. He's your child and you need to do what will help you get the best rest.

 

ewyldur

No advice here....I just can't believe he's already outgrowing his bassinet it seems like he was just born!

keri1013

Max N is in his crib in the same room as us (well actually, mostly in the same room as me, I usually sleep in his room so DH can get sleep since he's been working such crazy hours). Room sharing actually reduces the risk of SIDS so if you need another reason to support keeping him with you a bit longer, there's one. On the flip side, I do have a friend who had to move her daughter out of their room before she wanted to because the baby kept waking up....her pedi said that she might be smelling mom (aka food), and once she moved her to her own room she did sleep longer. So, I guess what I'm saying is what everyone else said...do what works for you and Max!