I need to vent to people who understand.
So, we are with a full service adoption center (law office that also does the agency type work). We've been waiting since February and I am getting antsy. A few women I've met with this same center have also gotten antsy and started looking at adding a facilitator to the mix.
Well, out of left field today- on a Yahoogroup related to adoption and cancer- a facilitator posts about a situation which sounds ideal to me. Mind you, facilitators aren't on this YG...it's a small group of women who aren't usually engaged in "a-situation" discussions. The detials were great on the situation....down to the BM living in the same state as my family...where we probably will end up living in the next few years.
I exchanged several emails w/facilitator, and she was in touch w/BM. I was excited!!
Well, I came home and my excitement was squashed. DH does not want to engage a facilitator. He is a very "old-fashioned" soul...he believes in systems and processes which is very much what our adoption center is about, and he is loyal. I tried to sell him on why it could be a good thing to use a facilitator but he was adamant, especially since it would increase our adoption expenses.
I know this was just a glimpse of what might have been....but it sucks! I feel like the perfect situation just ended...thanks to DH. Argh!!!
Thanks for giving me a safe place to vent!