Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Working moms who would rather SAH?

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I have a pretty good career, make a good salary, have a window office with a door - and I hate every second of it. I would absolutely stay home if we could afford it. I don't think I'm setting any kind of example for DS except work sucks and I only do it in order to pay bills.

I'm sure I would feel differently if I was doing something I genuinely enjoyed but until then I am insanely jealous of any mommy who gets to stay home with their LO.

Re: Working moms who would rather SAH?

  • Not me. BUT if I hated what I did or had a crappy boss or coworkers I might feel the way you do. But it's more likely that I would find a new job with a new company that I did enjoy. 
  • Raising hand! I have a good job, good pay, good benefits - but if I could SAH, I would.
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  • Ruffs I PPH you.  We are always on the same page.  I second everything you said in OP.  I used to love my job, but I would quit in a heartbeat given the chance to stay home.  A girl can dream!
  • I would rather stay at home but not because I hate my job, I really love it. I just miss my babies.
  • Well, I like my job, but I'd stay home with DD in a heartbeat if I it were an option. Though, dh does, and I honestly believe he does a better job than I could.

    My ideal situation would be to work out of the house 2 to 3 days a week, and have dh work outside of the house the other days. That way, K gets to be home with one of us at all times, but we both get adult interaction regularly.

  • I feel the exact same with everything you just posted besides I work part-time and really wish I were able to be a SAHM.  
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  • I have very mixed feelings.  I would love to SAH.  But everything in me repels being dependent on a man.  Even one as wonderful as DH.

    But since DH is unemployed....no conflict, I gotta work!  Lucky for me my Boss is great and is very cool about me needing family time.

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  • I honestly hate my job, hate the environment, and hate the people I have to deal with on a daily basis. The only thing I like about it is the fact that I make my own money. But now, business is slow, so the money isn't really all there anymore. I am not happy here at all, but would be happier doing something else. I'd trade this for staying home with DD any day. I
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  • Me.  I also have a good career (teacher) and make a decent salary for said job ;), but I always wanted to stay home with my kids when they were young and go back to work when they went to school.  I think I will be staying home after #2 as daycare costs will eat up the majority of my salary and make it not worth going to work.  I will have to find work I can do at home, however because we can't run our household on one income.
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  • Yeah I don't have a good career, or make a good salary, or have a door- stupid cube! 

    Ideally I'd work part-time.  i do enjoy having "adult" time and whatnot.  And I'm good at my job.  I just don't use my degree or have a good career that I'm proud of.  I think eventually I will move up and whatnot.  I just keep moving to different states and having to start over again which sucks. 

  • I like my job, in general.  I hate the commute though.  If I could do exactly the same thing, but just be home 10ish hours more a week (with the same $$ of course), I would be a happy camper!

    I cannot imagine being home all day alone w/ DD having to keep her engaged all day long; I would go BSC.  But being at home w/ my girl 2 or 3 more hours a day would be heaven.

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  • This is me exactly!

  • i have a wonderful job, so much flexibility, the ability to bring lovey to work with me a few days a week, and i would quit in a heartbeat if we could afford it.

    that being said, this new baby's going to force me to quit since we won't be able to afford child care for two, so we'll see if we can afford it then! I can't wait!

  • I'm right with you, almost word for word.  I used to enjoy my career, but things have changed with my company since I've been back from maternity leave and I want nothing more than to spend more time with DD.  My "career" isn't very challenging at the moment and although I know I should just be grateful to have a job right now, it's not fulfilling at all to get up and come to work every day.  Sigh.  Hang in there!

  • Me. We could pretty easily afford for me to stay home, but it wasn't initially part of our plan until baby #2, and I make more than Dh.

    I'm miserable though, so I've been trying to talk Dh into agreeing that I sah. I feel guilty though because I'm "not living up to my end of the bargain".

    I'm looking for part time jobs right now.

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  • I started back to work after 12 weeks and hated my job. I left and now I am at a new one. I like what I do, who I do it with, I have a much better commute and a better salary. It makes working bearable. I HATED working at my old job. I still would like to work 3 days a week and be home with DD PT. Finances and healthcare benefit necessity says no.
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  • I would love to spend more time with DD, but I'm afraid I wouldn't be a good SAHM.  I'd work part time in a heartbeat, though!
  • One day I feel great about my career and the next, I hate it (and I have it pretty good). I'm pretty certain that if I stayed home I would feel the same.. some days I would love it - others I would want to be back at work and making money.  I can't imagine not making money. 

    That said, you are most definitely setting a positive example for your son. You are showing him that work isn't always fun and fulfilling, but that adults work so that bills can get paid and babies can be comfortable. 

  • I love my job, my boss and my friends here...but would quit in a heartbeat to stay home with DS if we could afford it.
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  • I actually really like my job most days, but I'd still rather be at home with DD.
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  • im one of those annoying moms who wants hte best of both worlds - id love to be ableto work part-time but alas thats not the case.?
  • imagekatydid2007:

    That said, you are most definitely setting a positive example for your son. You are showing him that work isn't always fun and fulfilling, but that adults work so that bills can get paid and babies can be comfortable. 

    Thanks.

    ETA to delete my mean comment about DH

  • i want it both ways - i really like my job, but most of the time view is at a means to an end (supporting the family). i would LOVE to work 3 days and stay home 2.
  • imageKimboRambo:
    i want it both ways - i really like my job, but most of the time view is at a means to an end (supporting the family). i would LOVE to work 3 days and stay home 2.

    I feel the same exact way.

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  • imageKimboRambo:
    i want it both ways - i really like my job, but most of the time view is at a means to an end (supporting the family). i would LOVE to work 3 days and stay home 2.

    I feel the same exact way.

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  • imagelexigrl:
    I love my job, my boss and my friends here...but would quit in a heartbeat to stay home with DS if we could afford it.

    Me too. 

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  • Me.  But not because I hate my job or anything; I also just miss DS.  I am a teacher so it works out well for time off with him, so that's good.  I'm trying to go PT next year, but my district is being a real PITA about it.  Even though I teach music and contractually I CAN go PT, they're making it practically impossible through loopholes.  I don't get it.  :(  I'd love to teach private lessons full-time, but the work is so inconsistent and in this economy the first thing to go is lessons.  I've also thought about in home daycare, but I'm afraid of liability and stuff like that.  *sigh*
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  • I totally feel the same way. I used a personal day to stay home and play with DS because I'm so miserable at work. I'm lucky to have summer off, but I am SO dreading Sept. I would give anything to stay home, but I carry our insurance. I feel like I'm missing moments and times that I'll never be able to replace.
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  • I;m bored at my job, It takes me a few hours to do everything I need to do for the week. I would like a new job that would keep me busy and I would like to drop down to 3 days a week. Right now I am only working 4.

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  • I honestly like my job and having time away from DS every day, however I would also love to be able to stay at home with him.  Especially after having to call in 3 days in a row cause he had a fever.  It would be so much easier if I didn't have to do that every time he is sick (plus he would get sick less if he weren't in daycare).  That being said though, he has so much fun at daycare, I would hate to take that away from him.  I don't think I can ever be as much fun as 9 other kids running around with him.
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    imageGina418:
    Raising hand! I have a good job, good pay, good benefits - but if I could SAH, I would.

    Ditto!!!

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  • I wish I could SAH.  I like my job sometimes.  I just get NO rest.  I work 3rd shift.  My DH works 2nd shift but I still dont get any sleep because he constantly wakes me.  It drives me NUTS!  I only sleep on weekends.  during the week I average 3 or 4 hours tops of broken sleep a day.  Its a constant battle in my house.  I get maybe 2 in the am then I get 2 in the evening when my Mom gets here afterwork for the evening shift.  This is my primary reasons other than I miss her and dont feel I get enough "Quality" time with her. 

  • I am totally with you.  I hate my job, and I would kill to be able to stay home with DD.  I am so jealous of all SAHM's, but if I were a SAHM we would be homeless and DD and I wouldn't have insurance because we depend on my income and benefits. 
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