am i the only one?

janinekrause

who has never felt bad if my DH is tired or worried about him waking at night? I know its different because I am back at work now but even on maternity leave, i definitely did more at night but he still got up all the time.

Until she started STTN, I think he got up more than me at night.

Why all these ladies who feel bad if their DH sleeps at night? Even women who stay home and DHs who work. I think it is harder and takes more energy to be home with the LO all day then be at work.

ibbym

The only time I feel bad is when DH has to get up for work at 3:30am.  On those nights, I make sure to take care of Sawyer.

niceneese

Ha! DH can get up. I used to think I always had to get up with DS to nurse him but now that his wakings are rare and don't necesarily require nursing. I make him get up just as much as me.

MegGary

To me as long as there is balance it doesn't bother me. DH & I try to be fare when it comes to the burden of our daughter. So if he had been getting up a lot with her or if he was really tired because he had a paticularly difficult day(he does manual labor) I would let him get his sleep & I'd get up with her.

When I was home with her I'd always get up w/ her. I could always nap during the day with her I was too tired. He didn't have that option. Now that I'm back at work it's more of a 50/50 split.

KathrynMD

honestly - DH needs a lot more sleep than me, so I get up about 90% of the time w/ DD.  If I need him to get up he will and he makes up for it by getting up w/ her early on the weekends so that I can sleep in a little.

Lucky_Dragonfly

I don;t feel bad. esp since both of us work and I am still the one who gets up at night if DS wakes. MH never hears the monitor at night. And yes I get irritated when MH says he is tired and he slept the whole night and I haven't Heck I haven't STTN since like Jan of 2008!

janinekrause

the monitor is next to DH's head on his side of the bed. she is across the hall so I wouldnt even need a monitor. he wakes up at the same time as me usually she STTN for the last week so its not an issue but he got up at 5am today to give her a paci.