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baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful
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Ok...so I was thinking yesterday about how I would tell DH if and when we get pregnant again.  I found the cutest onesie while I was out shopping and I bought it.  Then I started thinking...I know that now after two miscarriages that I wish I had the strength to wait to tell DH until after I had at least two blood tests to confirm that my numbers are doubling like they should.  I see how upset he gets each time this happens and I want him to be apart of everything but at the same time I hate getting him excited with a positive test just to find out after the blood tests that mynumbers are not doubling, and I don't want to do that to him again.  Has anyone else waited to tell DH?  Is this a stupid idea?  I would just love to see him be able to get really excited when I tell him and then i can tell him that the numbers have already doubled.  Sorry for my rambling...I just wanted to see if anyone else had held out on tell DH
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  • lil_rhodylil_rhody member
    I don't think I could hold out. I would need him to be there if things didn't go well.
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  • KateAndMarkKateAndMark
    I personally wouldn't wait to tell DH. It's his baby also and I think he should know as soon as I do. Just my thought.
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  • Mrs.EmmaLouiseMrs.EmmaLouise member

    imagelil_rhody:
    I don't think I could hold out. I would need him to be there if things didn't go well.

    This.  I think DH would know the instant I do, because I will be uncontrollably smiling.

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  • emma9emma9

    so what does the onsie look like ? :) I waited to tell DH until after my bloodwork  :) he wasn't surprised though because I was up at least 2x anight going to the bathroom !

     

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  • baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful
    You guys are prob right...and I know that he would want to be there for me and me for him if something was wrong again...it is just I feel protective over him and I hate how each miscarriage hurts him.  I sound silly I know but I just hate seeing him hurt.
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  • carasizemorecarasizemore member

    imagelil_rhody:
    I don't think I could hold out. I would need him to be there if things didn't go well.

    This!  As bad as it would be to see him be sad again, I don't think I'd want to have to go through it alone.  He'd probably be mad if he then found out that I tried to do it all on my own you know?

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  • baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful
    imageemma9:

    so what does the onsie look like ? :) I waited to tell DH until after my bloodwork  :) he wasn't surprised though because I was up at least 2x anight going to the bathroom !

     

    It is gray and has a heart in the middle and on one half it says "50% Mommy" and on the other half it says "50% Daddy".  I love it.  Was it hard to wait to tell him?

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  • carasizemorecarasizemore member
    Also, I posted a message for you below. It's down there somewhere!
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  • lil_rhodylil_rhody member
    imagebaby#1hopeful:
    imageemma9:

    so what does the onsie look like ? :) I waited to tell DH until after my bloodwork  :) he wasn't surprised though because I was up at least 2x anight going to the bathroom !

     

    It is gray and has a heart in the middle and on one half it says "50% Mommy" and on the other half it says "50% Daddy".  I love it.  Was it hard to wait to tell him?

    OMG! That sounds too cute! Where did you see that? I might have to get one for our eventual baby, lol.

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  • baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful
    I found it at Old Navy.
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  • emma9emma9

    OMG ! that sounds so adorable ! :)

    what a great idea ! yes, it was hard - I don't think I'll be able to wait this time... :)

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  • mindyschallermindyschaller member
    I've decided that I'm going to wait until I see the heartbeat before I tell anyone including DH.  And then I'll do something cute to tell him. After that, I'm not going to tell anyone until I know the sex...I figure they'll probably figure it out, but still.. I want to keep it our little secret when it happens
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  • baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful

    imagecarasizemore:
    Also, I posted a message for you below. It's down there somewhere!

     

    I responded...sorry I didn't even see it before..lol

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  • baby#1hopefulbaby#1hopeful

    For those that wanted to know where I got the onesie..go to Oldnavy.com, then go to baby boy clothes, then onesies.  It is only 5.00 I think.  It is gray and has a red heart...reads "50% Mommy, 50% Daddy, 100% perfection"

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  • stellar_magnitudestellar_magnitude

    In my case, I probably couldn't hold out on telling him. I'd really want him to be with me every step of the way -- even if the ending wassn't so great. As negative as it may sound, he'd find out about the m/c anyway if that's what ended up happening. And then he'd probably be even more hurt that I didn't tell him. But that's just me.

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