Taking a break

sinisterkat01

Good morning ladies,

Thanks for letting me hang out on this board - I am addicted and it has been great, but I think I need a little break.  May be back on Mon or Tues, or it may be a couple of months from now.  I am having just a little bit of an emotional break down right now, and I just don't know if I can think about TTCAL right now.  It's overwhelming.

DH is driving me nuts and we are not getting along well right now.  (So, maybe TTC is not the best idea so soon, right?)  I just got over 4,000 in medical bills from the m/c and 1st drs appt and DH happens to let me know that we have a $15,000 deductible on his insurance!  Not the $5,000 that I was led to believe.  My crappy insurance covers no maternity, so I had been relying on his which I knew nothing about.  We supposedly have a health reimbursement plan (HealthScope) that picks up what UHC does not, but I am skeptical.  If we have to pay all of this, we are in deep shyt.  Maybe another reason not to TTC - money problems and all.  My house is literally in shambles . . . we don't have a dining room floor, we don't have baseboards in the house, nothing is painted and we are living in construction.  I just keep thinking that maybe God did this for a reason - maybe we are unprepared and unfit for a baby right now. 

See, like I said, little breakdown.  Hopefully, I will get over this and see you all again soon.  GL until then and have a good weekend!

(But I will check for replies today to see if anyone has any insight on the insurance business.  Thanks.)

MsZoeB

Sounds like you are having a rough day. I hear you on the house issues and money. My pay is getting reduced due to restructuring and we recently moved into a fixer upper. Money is tight and I have wondered if we should put things on hold but we are getting older and sometimes, for us, you just have to have faith. I know that things will start to improve.

Good luck with you decisions and I hope that when you start TTC again you will be successful quickly. 

sweetsarahsmiley

We'll miss you. (((((((HUGS)))))))

AKAtexas77

i can't really give you much ins advice, but i wanted to tell you how hard TTC and m/c's can be on a marriage.  before our m/c DH and i got along pretty good, well after that there has been a few times that i really considered killing him.  the process is so hard. 

i'm sorry that it seems like everything is happening at once, that is a defeating feeling.  remember that you and DH love each other and it's ok to get mad and yell and scream just don't do anything permanent while you are mad.  if you think you are in debt with the medical bills just think how bad your debt would be if you had to pay a high-profile lawyer to get you off of the murder charge. 

do what you need to do to feel better, we're here whenever you come back. 

emma9

GL to you ! hope this break gives you what you need emotionally and you get a break financially !

we're here when you come back !

Mrs.EmmaLouise

Oh goodness!  I understand why you might want a break, but we are always here if you need support.  GL with your house project and working our the insurence.

hopingwaiting

Wish I had insight to offer, but just wanted to say sorry you're having a tough time right now.  Take care of yourself, and we'll be here whenever you're ready to return.