NBR: co-worker question

Lizzyie325

I have this one co-worker who I used to be friends with. We were really good friends in fact, he held up the chuppah at my wedding and used to hang out with DH and I all the time. We got into a little argument almost 2 months ago and he stopped talking to me completly. He then has tried to sabatoge my job, making up lies to my manager or blaming me because he didnt come up to me about a work situation (I had meds and he needed to sign them out to go on an outing).

  For the most part, I just ignore him now. Its sad that the friendship went that way, but for a while there I did have a good friend and that's what I see it as. The person I knew is no longer there. I get my job done and  I don't talk bad about him, I left it at that.

 Here's the current issue. He had given me a few things to save for an ex, and we still have them. He asked one of our other co-workers to text me asking for his stuff back, and then asked his current gf, another co-worker to ask me again. This entire time, I've been waiting for him to grow some and just ask me. 

  I now have one of the things in my car, and I'm just waiting for him to ask me for it. I'm not sure whether its realistic that he will ask me, but I feel like just handing them over to him is giving in to this behavior. Now though, we're about to move (just to a downstairs, bigger apartment) so I'm not sure if for the sake of him being a co-worker, I should just give it to him to get this stuff out of our way. Also, I've asked his gf repeatedly for a cocktail shaker that we had left at their place and they have yet to bring that back to us. It was a wedding present and we loved it. 

 Thank you in advance for any advice! 

sophabelle

if it were me, i would just put his stuff in his office when he's not there and leave it at that, just to be done with it ya know? but that's just me...

 

as far as your stuff you left at his house, given his behavior i doubt you'll be getting that back but you never know.  maybe you should just ask him and not his gf for that back and see where it goes.  

Lizzyie325

Unfortunately we don't have offices. I work in a residential house taking care of disabled young adults. He has a cubby, but its not big enough. I probably will give it back to him on sunday though, the next day I have to work with him.

kittykatlover

Well, you know he wants his stuff, even though he's too immature to ask you for it directly. I'd just drop it off on his doorstep or in his office and be done with it. Unless the cocktail shaker was a family heirloom or something, I'd just forget about getting that back. Just let it be and move on. (I have seen really nice shakers at Bed, Bath, and Beyond...maybe its time for a shopping trip?!?)

marcandjen

Look, just because he's too immature to communicate with you directly doesn't mean that you should stoop to the same level. Just go up to him and say, "Hey, I have those things you wanted- they are in my car. When would you like to have them?" Just be direct.