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NBR- Anyone else work with their DH, BF or SO?
I'm just bored at work and curious....
DH and I both work at the same high school...he is a guidance counselor and I am a school psychologist. Our offices are in different parts of the building, so we usually don't see each other that much. We sometimes have meetings together...and we call and email each other throughout the day (just as we would if we had jobs at different places). Plus, it helps saving on gas money because most days we ride in and home together!
I actually was offered my job after he had already started working here...so I was hesitant to accept the job. He and I need our space from each other (otherwise we would drive each other nuts), and I was very worried that working together would affect our relationship in a negative way. But it has been fine so far...and it is actually kind of neat to have someone on the inside that you can talk to about what goes on at work....we can tell each other stories and really understand them (like about people we work with, events, etc...).
Anyone else? If you do, does it work out well? If you don't, do you think it would work out well?
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Re: NBR- Anyone else work with their DH, BF or SO?
I used to work with my husband. He was in maintenance, and I was hired to organize their pig-sty of a maintenance shop/tool crib. Then I was going to be the "receptionist" for anyone that needed parts/tools. But I ended up going to a different department after a few months, then we both eventually got laid off from the company.
I LOVED working with him! But then again, we always laugh about how we are a weird couple because most people need their space from their SO, and we miss each other after just a few hours! LOL we are pathetic, but yes, we enjoyed working together.
wow that's interesting that the school you work for didn't frown upon that! i guess they can't deny you though... that's tight w/ you both being in the mental health field at the same school- i am sure you have plenty of meetings together! is that weird for the parents if you have like an IEP or something or are they cool with it?!?! Just curious!
dh owns a restaurant and we actually met years ago when i worked at his uncle's restaurant as a waitress... so when we first met, he continually asked me to leave his uncle's place and come work with him but i said NO WAY (i had worked with an ex-bf before meeting dh and we did NOT work well together and was ultimately the reason why we broke up AND broke up at work! it was a nightmare...) plus i was going to college and now i am in grad school to be a school psychologist (as well as op)... so i wouldn't have worked w/ him for very long even if i did!
i give props to ppl that can do that! it was hard for me! what keeps dh and i sane is our distance ;-) he works a lot and i am working full time while in grad school- we are both very independent ppl and need space - its why we mesh so well together!
I met DH through work, so we worked together for 3 1/2 years until I left last year. His brother also worked there, then a bunch of their/DH's friends from TX moved here and got jobs there, and then BIL's wife started.
I LOVED working with DH. I admire his intelligence and work ethic, and it was so great to see him in action and see how much everyone respects him. After LO came, we'd have lunch dates during work hours...it was a great way to spend time together. Since we got "us" time during the day, we were each more likely to go out with friends outside work.
Working with BIL/SIL was another story. 9 months (and two therapists) after SIL started, I left. It's been a year, and I still miss getting to spend all that time with DH!
About 2 years ago DH and i started working in the same building, different companies. We would drive to work together and eat lunch together pretty much every day. I LOVED it. I know some couples would gag at the thought but he truly is my best friend. Unfortunately about a month ago my boss decided to move our office, so we can no longer carpool or eat lunch together, major bummer! I miss being able to have him next door if i need him, especially with the ever present looming DD.
Hopefully we'll be able to work closer in the future, our office move was only temporary!
DH and I used to work at the same place (they layed me off or I would still be there)
We carpooled and usually ate lunch together it was nice. It was also great when we needed to come in on days off for continued education casue it only ruined one day. We worked in differnt buildings though and were not allowed to call each other/email but the company was very strict about calls and computer usage it could mean your job so we just didn't do it. If one of us got stuck and was late for lunch we couldn't even let the other know.
No one has ever made us feel like they frown upon it...there are a few other couples who work here as well. My last school was a different story though....while I was working there a position opened up that DH was thinking of applying for...and my boss told me that they would never hire him because we were married. He ended up getting this job though, so never even applied to that one.
Some parents catch on that we are married...they don't seem to mind, and we kind of make a joke out of it. We have a "common" last name though, so often times parents won't even pick up on it...they probably just figure that with a last name like "Smith," its not that coincidental! Some of the students pick up on it, and others don't. They usually figure it out when the see wedding pictures in our offices, and its neat to watch their faces as they put two and two together
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From the other side:
My parents have worked together for about 25 years. They (technically dad) own a small business, with employees. they actually ran it out of our house when we were kids, which meant mom was a SAHM, sort of.
It was always interesting. Dinner conversations inveribly turned to work related convos between them, until my bro and I complained and they made an effort to keep that talk to a minimum. Both Bro and I (and our friends at times) have worked for them, it was always nice to know I had a summer job to fall back on if I wanted it. And we always had a way to get ahold of them, and knew that they could drop things to deal with us if needed.
Their work life very much resembles their personal life. My mom is in charge
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They have "alone time" in that they have individual clubs they participate in, but they spend a lot of time together regardless. I'm not sure I could do that with DH.