should I confront this or let it go?

zigby

DH and I are friends with a couple he's been great friends with for twenty years, we used to see them all the time but since DH started his new business a few years ago it's been a lot less.  I on the other hand talk to the wife almost every week or more at the least every two weeks or so. 

That is until the end of Jan / beginning of Feb.  I've called and left several messages and she called me back once in March or so.  I left it alone since they have older kids and I know they're busy with sports and stuff...DS's birthday weekend was around the corner from their house so I called to let them know we were there and that we'd love to see them. 

The husband came over in the evening and she was somewhere with the kids.  She called the next day and said they'd come over in the evening for a bit.

I will say she acted 50% normal and 50% "off".  I wasn't thinking anything except when MIL asked about them and I told her I wasn't sure how they were doing since I hadn't spoken to them she asked if we had a falling out and I responded if we had I wasn't aware of it.  So of course that's been on my mind now.

One of her kids left their shoes at the house and I called to let her know...it's been over two weeks and I haven't heard anything from her.  I guess I'll just drop it off the next time I'm out that way.

I have no idea what the deal is...but I would hate for DH not to get to hang out with his old friends just b/c someones not happy with me.  (I guess that comes from my mom being a pain in the a$$ and not trying to get along with my Dad's old friends and their wives - now dad just has a handful of friends left and rarely gets to do anything "guy" b/c of my mom)

Should I 

A: call again and remind her of the shoe and ask if I should drop it by?

and if I do this should I bring up that there may be something we   need to talk about?

B: Let it go...and not call...just drop off the shoes randomly when out there

 

Thanks!!!

 

Temp108743750006959

hmm. Is there a guess as to what is going on? Why do you thinks its you?

I prob wouldn't drop a 20 year old friendship but I feel like details are maybe missing. If you truly don't know what those details are, I would prob set a lunch up to talk with her openly.

zigby

I truely have no idea why she would be upset with me...as I said I wasn't even thinking that or anything until MIL brought it up...since she brought it up and she (friend) wasn't acting herself totally when they came over I've been over analyzing it.  Just trying to come up with a reasonable excuse as to not call someone for months and I'm not coming up with anything.

 

Temp108743750006959

ok, then I think it depends on how much it means to you. If the friendship is worth it, I'd confront the issue.

It could be that they are having problems and are just hermitting right now. Or it could be they feel less of a connection with you for whatever reason -- it sucks when they happens, but it does. GL!