Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Beyond mad at DH

He has been a complete a-hole today and earlier DS had a blow out and I needed help, he told me I would have to wait because he was going to get a drink first.  I told him the drink could wait since DS had poop all over his hands too.  I then started yelling at me, threw his drink on the counter and slammed the door to the fridge.  I told him to forget it that clearly his drink is more important than helping out with a dirty diaper.  He went in the bedroom slammed the door and I packed DS and I up (we were all supposed to house sit for my parents 2 doors down from our house).  I told DH he could come join us when he was ready to apologize.  Its now been 4 hours and I haven't heard a word.

Can someone please come kick his arse?  I would appreciate it!

Re: Beyond mad at DH

  • i feel like for some reason he said "hold up, let me get a drink first" in a calm casual tone. was that the case? or did he say "geez. wait! im getting a drink!!"
  • OMG I would be so pissed, such an *** move.  In this house everytime DD has a poopy diaper who ever gets it (if were both home) yells to the other one hey I need a plastic bag we got a messy one. 
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  • It sounds like you both just need a break from each other.  Maybe it is good you are taking some time apart.

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  • I said, "Hey can you come help, DS has poop all over the place."  He said nothing.  I said, "Hey can you please help me?  He has it on his hands too and I can't get the wipes and still hold on to DS's hands.  He then started yelling, "You are going to have to wait, I am getting a drink first!"  Thats when I just looked at him in shock.  He didn't start or finish with a calm tone.  This is all after we had a good day together.  I mean, I know he hates changing dirty diapers, I just needed him to wipe DS's hands because I didn't want him to eat it.
  • i agree with kate. i think you guys are maybe tense with e/o for no reason.
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    Dh and I have days like that- where one of us is just a jackass or oversensitive (you are NOT being oversensitive). Try to cool off- he was definitely wrong, but he probably didn't realize what a jerk he sounded like. I hope he comes to apologize soon- if not, I'll be happy to kick his ass for you. :)
  • Well I was really shocked since things had been getting alot better between us.  I also got really mad that he threw juice all over my kitchen after I had just finished cleaning it but I didn't tell him that.  I just got the rest of our stuff together and left.  I know he hates dirty diapers but that was overboard. 

  • imagestar173:
    Dh and I have days like that- where one of us is just a jackass or oversensitive (you are NOT being oversensitive). Try to cool off- he was definitely wrong, but he probably didn't realize what a jerk he sounded like. I hope he comes to apologize soon- if not, I'll be happy to kick his ass for you. :)

    Thank you. 

    I am about ready to start taking bets as to how long it takes him to apologize.  He has a very difficult time saying the phrase "I'm sorry."

  • imagemrobertson20:

    imagestar173:
    Dh and I have days like that- where one of us is just a jackass or oversensitive (you are NOT being oversensitive). Try to cool off- he was definitely wrong, but he probably didn't realize what a jerk he sounded like. I hope he comes to apologize soon- if not, I'll be happy to kick his ass for you. :)

    Thank you. 

    I am about ready to start taking bets as to how long it takes him to apologize.  He has a very difficult time saying the phrase "I'm sorry."

    well make sure you are open to him saying 'im sorry' in other ways than verbally. maybe he'll have straightened up the house while youre gone or something... kwim? if you guys have been having probs, don't harp on this later. he knows youre mad so i wouldn't dwell on it for a long time.

  • Indifferent Poop in the hands means get over here now! ?I would have been pissed too. ?If someone is changing a diaper and asks for help, obviously it's not a normal poop. ?Some people can just be so selfish sometimes. ?I'm sorry!?
  • imagepunkfiction:
    imagemrobertson20:

    imagestar173:
    Dh and I have days like that- where one of us is just a jackass or oversensitive (you are NOT being oversensitive). Try to cool off- he was definitely wrong, but he probably didn't realize what a jerk he sounded like. I hope he comes to apologize soon- if not, I'll be happy to kick his ass for you. :)

    Thank you. 

    I am about ready to start taking bets as to how long it takes him to apologize.  He has a very difficult time saying the phrase "I'm sorry."

    well make sure you are open to him saying 'im sorry' in other ways than verbally. maybe he'll have straightened up the house while youre gone or something... kwim? if you guys have been having probs, don't harp on this later. he knows youre mad so i wouldn't dwell on it for a long time.

    No, I would let it go completely if he did something around the house.  I just have to decide since this is about the 4th time in the last 3 months that he has exploded this way.  I think its ridiculous.  If he does something to show me he regrets the way he acted, I will take that but I still think it needs to be discussed because this isn't ok.  Since I have told him before that this behavior isn't acceptable, I have to decide how I am going to handle it. I don't want DS to grow up in a house, seeing that and thinking its ok to talk to me or his future wife like that.  I would NEVER speak to him that way and he knows that.  I just have to decide how I am going to deal with this.  Lots to think about.

  • What an ass, sorry :(
    image DD and I. DD: 6/22/2008. DS: 6/22/2013
  • what a jerk!!

    :(?

  • I'm sorry! ?That's so frustrating. ?Sometimes I ask DH to go get DS when he wakes up in the morning and starts crying (he usually brings him into bed with us so I can BF)...somedays he will take his sweet time, go to the bathroom, slowly get a drink of water until he grabs DS and I just want to clock him. ?Hello? ?Can't you see your child is crying? Let's get a move on here!! ?Ugghhh, men just don't have that innate sense of urgency when it comes to babies sometimes. ?I agree with Punk though, just let him cool off a little (and you too!) and later hopefully you can sit down with him and just calmly explain why you were so angry. ?He deserves to know why you reacted the way you did as well, he might just not understand the situation and why you needed him right then and there....
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