I guess I am going to be a bad mother...

tboneangel87

Seriously, this lady and her husband or whatever were looking at carseats next to DH and I in the store and she was all like "this one won't work becuase it got such and such review from some magazine or something" and "this one won't be safe enough according to some report or something". I made the comment to DH (a little louder than intended) "Wow, thank god I am not that obsessive-could you imagine how much work that would be?" and the lady turns and says "Some of us want to be good parents. Good parents obsess and want to make sure they purchase only the safest things. I feel sorry for your kid". I was too stunned to reply (and embarassed that I had been overheard lol). Anyway, I just added the carseat and stroller my sister recommended (as she has 3kids I am sure she knows whats what, and besides I figure as long as its not been recalled its safe). But seriously-what kind of pregnant woman says that to another one?

EmilyBowes

HAHAHA. omg. i kind of feel bad for her kid, not certainly not yours.

Jason'swife

Hahahaha. That's the thing about truly obsessive people. They have no idea how psycho they sound to others.

Don't get me wrong... I'm totally in favor of saftey and all that, but I highly doubt that there's THAT big a difference. Can you imagine being married to someone like that?

Mike&Care

Oh my gosh. I cant believe she even said anything. I hate women like that. So freaking annoying. Those are the ones whose kids end up lying and rebelling BIG time, since Mom is so anal about everything.

I got stuck sitting next to another pregnant woman on a boat not too long ago. My husband, daughter and I were at the table across from her. She was one of those LOUD talkers. You know the type? lol. The whole damn boat ride (it was a whale watching tour) she talked about organic this and bpa free that and how she threw away diapers that people had bought her because she wanted to use cloth. She was so annoying and boring. I was this close to telling her that 1/2 of her plans would go out the window the second the baby was born. The only thing that stopped me was that A) I was a lot further along then her, which made me feel good and my DH and I were having too good of a time silently making fun of her. LOL. Her DH looked like he wanted to kill himself everytime she said something about an "organic" carseat/stroller, etc.

UGGGHHH!!!!

CalinsBride

What a horrible thing to say to someone! That is just rude. Although if I overheard someone say something like that about me, I would probably have given them a look lol.

And I have to confess I am the obsessive type, I read reviews and recall lists on everything we have for the baby. I've always known I'd be a paranoid mama, because even when I was a nanny I was over the top with the safety stuff.

TCsbride

While I would have NEVER turned to another mom to be and said something like that, I'm more on her side. With my first I spent hours researching which car seat was safest, which crib was best, which stroller was best, which activities and toys would be best for them, made my own organic food, etc. I'm just one of those Type-A personalities that does that. And I'll admit, sometimes I'll see women at BRU just picking out a travel system because of the looks and I think badly about them, but I know it's wrong. I know not everyone has the time or energy to research like I did, or even know they need to, but I know it doesn't mean they will be a bad parent. That's ridiculous. If anything, they could become BETTER parents than DH and I because I overanalyze everything and I'm a perfectionist and I KNOW that I need to just relax sometimes and just play with my son! I try to aim for a happy medium!

grinsandgiggles

TCsbride:

While I would have NEVER turned to another mom to be and said something like that, I'm more on her side. With my first I spent hours researching which car seat was safest, which crib was best, which stroller was best, which activities and toys would be best for them, made my own organic food, etc. I'm just one of those Type-A personalities that does that. And I'll admit, sometimes I'll see women at BRU just picking out a travel system because of the looks and I think badly about them, but I know it's wrong. I know not everyone has the time or energy to research like I did, or even know they need to, but I know it doesn't mean they will be a bad parent. That's ridiculous. If anything, they could become BETTER parents than DH and I because I overanalyze everything and I'm a perfectionist and I KNOW that I need to just relax sometimes and just play with my son! I try to aim for a happy medium!

I think why some people pick out stuff in-store without any thought, is because they probably expect everything to be safe and pretty equal.  They probably figure that they wouldn't put something out there that wasn't safe for a baby. 

After creating my registry I got so many people asking me why I picked "online only" stuff.  They don't know why I couldn't settle on something in-store.  Maybe because the stuff in-store is almost all junk (I'm talking Walmart here people).  

BTW - Not attacking the OP, just agreeing with her on how some people put NO thought into buying something.  I don't go overboard either...I mostly go by recommendations on here more than anything.  

tuxcat

LMAO! I came to this conclusion when I had trouble giving up the F word for lent... seriously, DH and I tried to do some research on car seats and strollers and high chairs and stuff, but only to weed out which ones were total crap and to read reviews by other parents. Also, I'm married to an engineer, so he practically took apart every display model in BRU. Thought we were going to get evicted from the store!

Our philosophy went from "which was rated best/ safest" to "which is easiest to take down/ use and most stable when put together." We also figure that WE survived childhood with no carseats, minimal seatbelts, no helmets, no baby einstein or plastic playgrounds and plenty of boxed/ canned foods, with our parents smoking, drinking and swearing to some extent.

I think we'll all be fine parents if we don't go overboard in any direction...