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Sweet moment turns sour

thatgirlangthatgirlang
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SD (who is 9) just felt the baby kick for the first time. She was so excited. She jumped around, screaming, saying how weird it felt and how cool it was. DH, DS and I were all just laughing. It was such a cool moment. She was the last one to feel him and I was happy.

A few minutes later she said she wanted to feel it again. He's very active right now so within a few seconds she felt him again. Then she said, "Oh Angie, I wish it was a girl."

We already knew that she wanted a sister but she took the boy news very well and hasn't complained. I know she's not completely happy though. DH and I are personally thrilled about another boy... but I feel bad for SD. It will all be okay but it's not fun seeing her disappointed.


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  • almostanOalmostanO member
    she will love him as soon as he gets here.  She'll forget all of the disappointment.
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  • HeyyRedHeyyRed

    Ang - look at it this way. She is comfortable enough with you to be totally honest. That is an amazing gift. For both of you in fact. She feels safe enough to be totally honest with you with no worry about the effects of that. This is a total kudos to you and DH for creating an environment where she can be honest.

    And how great is it for her to know that she can share her thoughts and feelings with you. This will put her in great stead as she matures and faces bigger challenges.

    I think that things will change for her when she has a little boy that adores her and looks up to her as his big sister. ?

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  • thatgirlangthatgirlang

    Thank you both so much! I know she will love her brother. I just... keep imagining how different things would be NOW if she'd gotten the news she really wanted. It will be fine though, I know.

    Redd- I didn't even think about or appreciate the fact that she was able to be honest enough to say that to me. Thanks!


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  • HeyyRedHeyyRed

    I had a step mother who did not inspire trust or respect in me... I pushed a lot of my actual feelings down because of her.

    It all blew up in her face 15 years later though in one phone call that ended our relationship forever more. I've ceased to have a relationship with my father as a result. They are both toxic to me.

    Honesty is a GREAT component in your relationship. Support and nurture it for sure!?

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