Who wears the pants in your house?

orion09

DH runs our house ... unless we're talking about a craving... and then "I run dis Sh!t" I can't be with a man that I can control... that's just unattractive to me.

What about you? Who makes up the rules and handles the finances?  Would you rather run the house if your signifcant other does? Do you think this is going to change once the Little one gets here? Just curious...

katypresson

I run the house...for sure!!  I like it that way though! 

chels0120

I think DH and I pretty much make our decisions 50/50. But certain areas one has more say or charge. Like I handle our finances cause DH knows he sucks at not spending. And whenever we question something we ask eachother if its ok.

~Soleil~

We both have equal say.

nicmgen

I do all the bills and take care of the money.  DH doesn't have the best track record on paying bills ontime.

 

Other then that, I think we are equals.

mavilabride

I totally do LOL

I make a lot more than he does so financially all the final decisions really fall on me although I never exercise that option (I make sure its a 50/50 thing no matter what).  As for everything else, its a partnership really.  We take turns deciding where to eat out and what to do on the weekends.

I prefer when he makes the majority of the decisions though so he does.  I make too many decisions at work so when I get home, I like just knowing what to do versus having to think of it myself.

Plus...he's 6'2 250lbs so I try not to argue too much lol

Nicavesani

DH is definitely the "man" of the house, but we try to make all major decisions together, and he has the final say. ?It's been challenging for me because I naturally want to take command, but it's teaching me a good lesson on how to be a loving wife and I believe that our marriage is stronger for it.?

Tinkermeg

We're pretty much 50/50 on decisions.

 

somethingchangd

I have a much more dominant personality, so when little decisions need to be made and we're not making them together, I make them.  To an outsider it would definitely look like I wear the pants.  But generally speaking I think we have quite an equal relationship.

*KC*luvs*RJ*

We make rules and decisions together, for the most part.  However, when it comes to ANYTHING financial I typically have the final say.  I worked in finance for 8 years before switching careers, and I know a lot more than DH.  He's just too darn absent-minded to be trusted with that stuff!

mediadiva

DH is very cool with my making a lot of decisions but there are things he is very much having opinions on so sometimes he follows my lead and sometimes I follow his, it really depends and it can vary within a topic (certain money things he has the alpha on, and then other money issues I have the alpha on).

?It's a nice balance.?

erino&chrish

I'd say 50/50.

kimmiedu

to stir the pot, it is 2009 and I personally wouldnt go for the tough guy "man of the house crap" We are 50/50 just about (sometimes me more now that we are pg) Bills, we split and pay seperately.  I never want to have to ask my husband "If" I can buy something so we keep seperate accounts and one joint account to pay our mutual bills together.  The system works for us.

HDxNxJ

I would say its pretty even for us.. We live in a mother daughter with my parents still.... and so a lot of the house hold rules are really not set by us. Things like Laundry, and cooking we split right down the middle. DH puts laundry in and takes it out.. I fold it or hang it up and he puts the clothes away in the drawers.. but everything is pretty well split down the middle.

nicolehoppe

Our decisions are 50/50 (but I am highly persuasive, so I usually make a good argument for my view).  I also 'administer' all of finances and pay bills, but we review our monthly budget together. All of my education/experience is in economics, personal finance, real estate, and business, so I am drawn to those sorts of things in our household.

Overall, we both agree that we make a good team with running the household.

mitzi goodson

DH actually pays the bills but I run the household & I guess I would have to say that with are 50/50 on any decisions that need to be made.

Future Mrs.Qualls

somethingchangd:

I have a much more dominant personality, so when little decisions need to be made and we're not making them together, I make them.  To an outsider it would definitely look like I wear the pants.  But generally speaking I think we have quite an equal relationship.

Same here.... I have the more "in charge" air about me and DH just kinda does whatever needs to be done...

schmoodle

We don't have "rules" - I consider us partners and we make decisions together. I take care of our finances but not in a way where I do or do not let DH buy things, just in that I'm better with money than he is so I pay the bills, manage our investments, et cetera and he just trusts me but occasionally will ask what our balances are if he's curious. I'm more organized/conscientious so I'm more likely to be the one to say we need to clean/do laundry/et cetera (he does most of the cleaning, but by choice) but not in a way where I boss him around. When we have children it is even more important to me that we continue to be partners and equals.

mrs. remy

neither of us, and I like it that way! In all my past relationships, they were lopsided....meaning one person had more control or one person probably had stronger feelings than the other. That is why I just had to marry DH-we are truly a team.

afg

We are even - one of us will take the lead if we know more about somethign but we are pretty even.

Blackvelvet

nicmgen:

I do all the bills and take care of the money.  DH doesn't have the best track record on paying bills ontime.

 

Other then that, I think we are equals.

Temp159135562506975

for the most part we are a team - but when it comes down to big decisions- i always have more weight. I am in charge of finances b/c he sucks at them- and he knows it. I make  more major decisions when it comes to the kids, etc... but always with talking to him about it- b/c we really are a team.

Shlei

In our household I would say it's mainly me that runs the household but I always ask my fiance for his input and take it into consideration. For the most part we agree on everything.  I don't see things changing once our little one arrives.

Clevelander

we both do but DH leaves most things up to me... so I guess I do

FutureHernandez

He wears the pants...I just tell him which pair to wear! 

cathy_and_matt

somethingchangd:

I have a much more dominant personality, so when little decisions need to be made and we're not making them together, I make them.  To an outsider it would definitely look like I wear the pants.  But generally speaking I think we have quite an equal relationship.

this! I do have to force DH to make decisions sometimes because in general he's easy-going and I'm, well, not. But we're ultimately partners, I don't feel that I'm in charge of him. 

chyscottbaby

DH has a saying that he wears the pants in our family, I just tell him which ones!