Parenting after a Loss

one more thing about CIO

It's obvious from sdk's post that we all have really different opinions on CIO. I know my own opinion has certainly changed over time.

I just now had a chance to read all of the responses to my post from earlier. And I just wanted to thank all of you for being so supportive of my personal decision regardless of your personal opinion on the matter.

I've been afraid to post about it because I was a little unsure myself at first. I knew I had to commit to it if there was any chance of it working. And I knew I'd chicken out of somebody told me I was being a terrible mother. But I DO firmly believe this is the best thing for my DD (and my whole family) at the moment. And I just really appreciate everyone's respect for that. I love this board!

Re: one more thing about CIO

  • Yes, that is the great thing about this board.  Different strokes for different folks, ya know?  And we can just all support one another through it. :)
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  • This board rocks! One thing I've learned from frequenting the age-group boards: there is no one right way to do it. I hate it when arguments arise over parenting decisions, i.e., CIO or not, SAHM or working mom, BF or FF, blah blah blah. What works for some may not work for others. On many of the other boards, it would become an all-out flamefest. But this board is far more respectful of individual choices, for the most part.
  • I just wanted to say good luck with your sleep training!  CIO was both the hardest thing I've ever done and the best thing I've ever done.  DD is a GREAT sleeper, and I really believe CIO helped her get there.  I hope the same will soon be true for your DD too!!
    DD1 - 12.25.05
    (m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
    DS - 03.15.08
    DD2 - 12.03.09
    DD3 - 3.28.11
  • I am glad you posted, we all have so much we can learn from one another it is unreal.  Thank you for posting and I hope everyone feels like they can post w/out being judged or flamed here.
  • I know sometimes I may come across against CIO but I am not. As long as it is being done with guidance and responsibly, I am all for any family going for it if they feel it is right for them. I personally havent made that choice but its more b/c I am too chicken shiit. =)

    I dont think there is anything wrong with what you are doing and I am so happy its working for you!! As a matter of fact I have never thought that any of the ladies on this board have been irresponsible about it!!

    I love the diversity and maturity of this board when it comes to things like this! =)

  • Hey, I did get your e-mail this morning, and I typed you a LONG response, but then my computer ate it :(   Anyways, I will e-mail you back tonight!
    Aidan Jake 7/25/08 Cooper Cole 7/27/10 Tessa Morgan 8/9/12
  • Just read your original CIO post. It worked wonders for us too. Rested mommy and baby = happy mommy and baby. Good for you for doing what's best for you both.
  • Hey, I wanted to say that I don't think you're doing the wrong thing.  My post about the baby that was CIO today was more of concern that they were letting the baby CIO and she was past the point of being able to soothe herself (IMO).  I have not had to CIO - I have been lucky that Avery is a great sleeper but I dont think there is anything wrong with it, if the baby is ready.

    Your Avery seems very "ready" to learn how to self soothe.  And I think you're doing the right thing.  You talked that she cried for an hour, but you were watching her and making sure she was OK.  So please don't think that I'm judging you or CIO methods. 

    I'm so glad you found what will work to get your happy baby back :)

  • Ditto all the pp
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