XP: Weddings and a 2 month old... WWYD?

Mrs.C042807

DH and I are invited to 2 weddings this summer.  Both at the end of July/beginning of August.  One of them is for a very close friend, the other is a reception only invite.

Normally, I'm a "no babies at weddings" kind of person.  Our baby will presumably be 2 months old at that time and exclusively breastfeeding (if everything goes to plan.)  The close friend of ours that is getting married has said we can bring the baby if we need to. 

What would you do?  Attend and let the hosts know you're bringing the baby (sit in the back, duck out if he/she is crying etc.) Or stay home and let DH go alone?

WWYD?

TheMrs923

I'd go, take baby out during ceremony if necessary (the biggest reason I'm against babies at wedding is because parents don't know when to take the baby out to calm down) and leave reception when baby starts to get cranky/sleepy.

anniekh

Is there a grandma or grandpa nearby that would be dying for some baby-time?  If so, that's what I'd do - pump and let the baby hang out with grammy for a few hours.

Otherwise, I would go to the close friend's and duck out if he gets squirmy or upset and either let DH go alone to the acquaintance reception or give it a shot and have an escape plan if needed!

mrsmacias2008

i say take the baby, especially if your friend is ok with it. I had a few babies at my reception and it was actually not a big problem. The one who did cry was the three year old at the reception. Thankfully, my wondeful video guy edited that out.

Amorlinda

I think i would go and take the baby. If the hosts are ok with it then why not?

Is it at all possible to leave baby with grandparents and a supply of breast milk for the night?  Now i'm not a mommy yet nor pg so i don't know how well that works. :0)

Bubbalini

I don't like it when babies are at a ceremony.  I just seems like it is never quick enough for the parent to rush out if they start crying.  However, I think if you feel comfortable with going to the reception and your friend doesn't mind then you should go for it.

swimrbride

I am normally a no babies at weddings type (more for giving the parents a night out alone though), but with a 2 month old that is bf I think it will be fine, especially since they said that would be ok. Just sit on an aisle so you can get out quick if baby does cry. If it is a close friend I would rather go with the baby than not go at all.

andrew's wifey

I'd go, but then again, I don't think I've ever been to a 'no babies/children allowed' wedding...  Like Mrs said, just know when to take the babe out to calm down.

armandos_girl

We're going to a wedding June 27th and taking Squeaky.  I checked with the bride & groom and they are fine with it.  We'll sit in the back for the ceremony in case he has a meltdown, and then play it by ear for the reception.  The reception is right next to the hotel, so if necessary, DH can take him back to the hotel and I can stay and hang out (the couple is a set of friends of mine from college, so DH knows them, but not as well as I do)

charlies-angel

I personally would pump and get a sitter.

staycee

your friend said it was okay, so take the baby.   I'm sure you practice common sense when it comes to when to take a fussy baby out.

have fun.

Mrs.C042807

No grandparents nearby... each set lives an hour away, and not in the same city as the weddings.  The weddings are in 2 different cities as well.  Each about 1-1.5 hours from our home.  In fact, my parents are going to the one wedding as well.

As for pumping etc.....  not sure if we'll even be at that stage then.  We very well may be on breastmilk via bottles from time to time, but that's a hard thing to gauge at this point.

And I would for sure sit at the back and duck out the instant baby got cranky/fussy etc.  I wouldn't be one of those clueless people who sits through a ceremony with a crying baby.   

zoieglow

I'm in the same situation. My friends are getting married when our baby will be 3 months old. She said "bring the baby if you want" and I said no, I don't want it to start crying during your ceremony. She looked relieved. I might bring a baby to a reception for a little while but I'd definitely skip the ceremony. Even if you take it outside, it's still a distraction. It's just my opinion though - I'd just feel bad.

bbowie

If the bride said it was ok, I would go.  I don't mind babies at the ceremony.  My nephew had a little meltdown at mine and I vaguely remember it.  No biggie.