according to Ricki Lake....

sdkrlm

I can't possibly love my child...

I finally watched "The Business of Being Born..." and I have to say it REALLY offended me.  I come from a VERY liberal environment - where many of my classmates were birthed at home.  I'm not sure if this was mainly because of socio-economic reasons? or because I lived on Freak Mountain and every one in our neighborhood is a bunch of hippies.

During my pregnancy, I FULLY planned on going without drugs.  I wanted to go thru natural childbirth and I was DEVASTATED to find out I had to have a C-section due to the beginning of pre-e and not having an induceable cervix.  After the fact, and after We found out that Avery had the cord wrapped around her neck, twice, AND had meconium in the fluid already, I know in my heart that it was the right decision and never have I ever second guessed my doctor's choice.

Back to the movie - the one thing that REALLY REALLY REALLY bothered me is when the doctor/midwife there started talking about how women who have medical intervention, or godforbid a C-section, is that we do not receive the "cocktail" of hormones that make us LOVE.  That we will never get the nurturing instinct and know how to LOVE our babies.  WTF???  OMG - Listening to this made me want to throw a shoe at the television.  I think I am one of the best mom's I know!  I love Avery with all of my heart and being and there is nothing in the world more important than her.  I am a GREAT MOM!  My daughter is thriving, she's happy, she's smart, she's well adjusted.  I have been able to successfully BF her for over 7 months without any reason to stop right now.  I had people tell me that because of my c-section, and lack of going into labor, that my milk would never come in. I have had compliments from other moms, the day care workers, my PEDIATRICIAN tell me that they can see that I am a 'natural' mother and are so impressed with my parenting skills.  I pride myself in this.  I don't care if I sound arrogant, this is one of the things I have found in my life that I"m actually great at. 

For a movie to want to "sell" people on the alternatives to a hospitalized birth, i'm sure they really pissed a lot of people off by telling people that if you didn't squeeze your child out of your vagina in your HOME  bath tub, that you will never be able to LOVE your baby as much as one that did.  You can't possibly think that women who have had c-sections, inductions, epidurals or those that have adopted or had surrogates carry their babies can't LOVE their babies more than someone who went naturally.  that is complete bullshitt. 

Sorry... this really really bothered me a LOT. 

Done venting...

MelissaSue81

Oh wow..I don't want to watch that at all now.. It will definitely piss me off! I knew going in i was gonna get an epi.. that certainly doesn't make me love Evie any less.

mlf625

What a bunch of bunk. ?That actually made me laugh- so what about my mom, who had two babies without drugs and one by c/s- does she not love my sister as much because she missed out on the love cocktail that time around?

How arrogant. ?I can't imagine loving Anderson a BIT more than I already do....so I think we fared pretty well without that magical cocktail. ?;)?

SuzP

That is absolutely ridiculous!  I have never heard that. So I guess I don't love either LJ or Evie Mae.  I also can not imagine loving either one of them any more than I do. 

pumpkinhead06

I noticed that the BOBB was on demand and I thought about watching it... but now.....maybe not.

 honeslty... I had no interest in a med-free birth.. in fact, I only ever wanted a C section.  I am with you though... so far have been BF Jacob for 5+ months with NO issues..., and he's thriving. oh, and I love him to pieces.  I can't imagine life without him, and loving anymore than I do. 

and fwiw...how about adopted children?  basically the BOBB is saying that the adopted parents don't love them as much b/c they were the ones who gave birth?  BULLLSHIT.

Sueball1

I have to say that the movie didn't offend me at all, and I had a totally medicated induction, LOL. But I think that I just figured it was the same mentality that tells us FF moms that we don't love our children as much, or women who "risk" autism by getting vaccinations that they are ignorant, or what have you. People who are that judgmental are just insecure about their own choices, IMO.