Whining and temper tantrums normal at age 1?

dragonflyinn

My one DS is very laid back and content.  The other is so whiny.  He has seperation anxiety, and cries when I or DH leave.  Some days he is fine, but other days he cries when we walk out of the room.

This week he has also started throwing himself back on to the floor (from a seated position).  I assumed that this was normal and he was just having a bit of a temper tantrum because we weren't doing what he wants (who knows what that is) but my mom made me feel self concious about it.  She said she thinks we will have "trouble" with him because he is already "acting out".  Then we went for pictures this weekend (by the way he did NOT nap all day so he was in an awful mood) and the photographer made a comment about him having a temper tantrum.  I don't usually think I am an in denial type of person, but I just assumed that these temper flare ups while annoying were normal?

Are they normal? He does it at least 2 times a day but calms if/when we pick him up.

 

cands

I really hope they are normal, because both my girls were throwing tantrums around that age, and haven't really fully stopped.  At one point Sarah threw such a tantrum that she held her breath and passed out.  I took her to the pediatrician for that, and the pediatrician said that it was completely normal and just terrifying for the parents.  We try to ignore the tantrums as much as possible, to disincentivize them, but they still happen sometimes. 

Mrs. Destructo

YES!! Tantrums are totally normal!! Don't let your mom make you feel self concious about them. The little dudes get frustrated because they can't express what they want and/or the world gets a little overwhelming and confusing at times. It is TOTALLY normal for them to throw big tantrums!

DenverGrl

I hope it's normal. ?Sophie throws mini tantrums and has been for a month. ?Most of them time it's when we're at the park and it's time to go back in the stroller. She arches her back and kicks her legs and "yells" at me. ?Hannah just started doing the same thing but to a lesser degree. ?She's more clingy. ?But their little tantrums don't last long. ?

OctBaltBride

Totally normal and it gets worse!  My DD whines more now then she ever did.  She has serious seperation anxiety more so now and says no, no Mama when DH tries to help her.  DS had this more at a younger age.  They don't know how to speak that well at 1 so this is how they act out and get their point accross.  We were told to just ignore them and they would see that the whining and screaming doesn't help.  I would say that worked well for DS but not DD.

LilSurferGirl

Totally normal.  Forget the "Terrible Twos" - tantrums definitely started at age one for us.  Teddy started going limp and sagging to the floor if he didn't like me trying to move him away from something he wanted.  He also started babbling in an angry tone to me in protest.  They both got whinier and had an increase in separation anxiety so that if I try to hold one without the other or put somebody down they immediately start screaming.  They're really starting to be so much more aware of things and trying to be independent while also needing us - it's a tough time for the little guys and it's only natural that they'll act out a bit when they can't get their way. 

lutzcowgirlie

Totally normal. They are old enough to have preferences and desires and dislikes, but not really old enough to express those things in any way except through behavior.

Brongemonger

Oh goodness, I see this with my boys too. (Just turned 1, born at 34 weeks). The exact same thing, the throwing himself backwards.

 

I think this is totally normal. They can't talk and have limited ways to express their emotions!