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Babies on the Brain
MIL Vent. (longish - sorry)
Every dear, J and/or his bro gets their mom a fuschia hanging basket. We were very much last minute shoppers this year. We get to the store and they are OUT. They are even out of allll the other kinds of hanging baskets too. Well, for being lazy slackers, we kind of deserved that. On the way out we noticed this really cool small flowering tree (no idea what kind of plant it was, but it was pretty!). So, we picked it up thinking it would serve our purposes nicely.
We called to tell MIL that we are on our way over to say hi and bring her a little something and she says that she?s sorry, but she is out shopping and won?t be home for at least an hour. (DH was mildly irritated because she said she'd be home. We tried to make plans last week, but she had already called and made plans for breakfast with J's brother and his wife for breakfast. We offered to make her dinner or do something that afternoon and she said 'we'll see'.)
I have to say, I wasn?t too disappointed. This meant we could leave her pretty plant and card on the front steps and I could get home and take a nap. We get home and just about an hour later she calls. DH answers and says ?Did you get your present??? he was very excited to see what she thought. How does she respond? ?Well? I appreciate the thought, but this is not something I would ever buy, do you mind if I return it?? You should have heard her tone, she sounded so irritated and put out. He was crushed. He didn?t even respond. She asked if she?d hurt his feelings and he said that yes, she kind of had. She half-ass apologized and said ?Well, I thought you?d be more hurt when you came over and just saw that it wasn?t here. I figured you?d understand.? Understand what? That your son tried to do something nice for you, you couldn?t even make yourself available and now you?re being an ungrateful wench?
Man she just grates on me sometimes. She's already made my DH resent Christmas time. If she works to distroy all other holidays for him too I may just have to harm her.
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Re: MIL Vent. (longish - sorry)
I can understand! My MIL is the same way sometimes. Somehow, DH managed to get her out of the house yesterday so she could come to the winery with us. His sister was impressed, she didn't know how he did it!
The reason being that last year we didn't see her at all. Why? Because she didn't want to do anything - she just wanetd to spend a quiet day at home with her birds. Yes - she really is crazy! She has 3 birds, 1 is a parrot, and she treats them like they are her children. So last year, we spend Mother's Day with my mom. I don't think I need to explain to you hwo much DH's feelings were hurt.
The most irritating part is that she wasn't always this way. It is mostly the last few years. She is just so selfish (which I know sounds weird to say since it was Mother's Day I was talking about above, but that is just one small example).
I believe it was DH's birthday last year that she just called up the week before and said 'By the way, J's bday dinner will be at my house at 6 on Saturday'. We already had plans to bbq at our place... she was invited. She's just weird. Empty nest syndrome maybe?
She could be worse...but then again...she could be human.
I got a plant again. Petunias. I don't know why she thought I could keep petunias alive better than a freaking fuscia.
He totally was excited! We were really frustrated after not being able to get her the hanging basket. He saw that and was stoked. He thought she would love it and he was proud for actually picking something out instead of going with the default gift. I am closer and closer to saying something to her.