Mother's day. I'm being such a coward

Katlady84

We're having mother's day dinner out with my husband's family and I'm being such a coward about voicing my opinion. With this being my first mother's day I really wanted to go somewhere special, but the IL's are tossing around the idea of Indian food (which I can't even eat) and I'm being so wishy washy about it instead of just suggesting where I would *really* like to go...a nice Italian place with a great wine list :-) I suppose that's not budget conscious, alas. ?I just don't want them to think I'm being selfish. What would you do??

Mrs.SPM

I would do what I want to do. It is your first Mother's Day. You MIL has had a bunch of Mother's Days before.

jnealet

Its going to stink if your sitting at dinner with an empty plate while everyone else is eating.  Talk to DH about it, maybe he can steer the dinner to a different restaurant.  Its your day too, you deserve a place you like too.

And Indian isn't horribly cheap, Italian could be more budget friendly.

cherryblossom25

Mrs.SPM:

I would do what I want to do. It is your first Mother's Day. You MIL has had a bunch of Mother's Days before.

 

My thoughts exactly.

Snugs99

cherryblossom25:

Mrs.SPM:

I would do what I want to do. It is your first Mother's Day. You MIL has had a bunch of Mother's Days before.

 

My thoughts exactly.

 

I agree.  I can't stand my MIL so I would tell her like it is but you deserve to do what you want so tell your DH how you feel.

Katlady84

I like my IL's, so I don't want to come off as a b*tch...but yeah, I have talked to DH and he is trying to steer them in a different direction. Its my first morther's day but I don't want MIL to feel like she's not important anymore either

kelly&marty

I'd focus on the fact that you can't eat anything there. Surely they don't expect you not to eat!?! Have DH suggest the switch!

justgnat

Speak up! It's your very first mothers day. I think you should get the honor. MIL has had tons it's your turn. Just say "I promise not to be like this every year, but being that it's my very first MD ever I would really like to go to ____. Would that be alright?"