Ugh. Wrenches in my works. . .

ColoRxGirl

I was sooooo excited after our first homestudy visit: we set up all the appointments for our last 4 meetings and planned to be homestudy approved by the end of May.

Well, then our SW had to cancel our 3rd scheduled meeting - she had a conflict on her schedule.  I was bummed, but figured "no big deal" - we'll reschedule and still finish in time to begin waiting in June.

Fast forward to today.  DH informs me he might have to go to Scotland (of all places??) on business right over the 4th meeting we had booked with the SW.  Seriously?  Scotland?  And did I mention the travel time isn't set in stone?

God is trying to teach me patience.  I know this as fact now.  Why else would DH have to take a trip to a place he's never been, out of the country, to a vendor I've never even heard him talk about before?

I'm trying to be patient, I really am.  I just want the homestudy thing over with.  I don't mind the idea of a 6 or even 12 month wait for the placement.  At least I can get on with my life (and my stupid household projects) in the interim.  But being a slave to the homestudy process, with the interviews, forms, letters, etc., is starting to grate on my last nerve.

Thank you for reading this.  That is all.

M&MBride0506

Breathe....breathe....breathe.....

Okay, I can only imagine what you are dealing with right now, because I'm not even close to that stage yet, but I can try to imagine.  You are chopping at the bits to get started and BAM another obstacle...

However, I just want you to think about the end result.  It's going to be lead someway, someday to a baby.  And no matter what craziness you've put up with before hand, prayerfully you will have a baby by the end of the process. 

In the meantime, see if you can switch the next homestudy for the next possible date that your hubby will be home.  I mean, I know you have to be at the SW's mercy, but....cross your fingers that she has something in July..or is there any possible way that you can keep the appointment you have and then change it once his travel plans have been made more solid??  I hope that helps...Good Luck..

Mel

CaptainSerious

I know how agonizing it is when unforeseen delays get in the way of your progress.  During our homestudy and while we were putting our dossier together, I felt that every moment counted.  The way I saw it, that was the only part of the process during which I could control the timeline.  Once our paperwork was submitted, we'd have no choice but to wait idly.  I'm guessing you feel the same way.

Now that I'm here, I can't say which kind of waiting is worse.  At least now I know that it's totally out of my hands, and there's nothing I can do to affect/shorten our wait.  That's a relief, because I'm not always anxious and not always figuring out timelines in my head, stalking the UPS guy, or stressing myself out trying to stay three steps ahead of everyone else.  On the other hand, the stillness and lack of new information of this wait is a whole different kind of trial.  I have no news, and don't expect any for a while yet, but I am still constantly trying to figure out timelines and contingencies in my head.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I completely understand how frustrating it is to be in your situation.  I almost made myself crazy waiting for my SW and her superiors to finish our homestudy, so I know what you are feeling.

Just hang in there--it will come.  Maybe it will help to think of it this way:  whether your paperwork is ready in June or July, if your perfect match doesn't come along until September, you'll still be waiting until then either way, right?

Good luck, and here's hoping you can reschedule for a date in the near future!

crystalpopcorn

How frustrating.  I know this is cliche, but I'm sure this is happening for a reason. Your baby will be there when the time is right.  Hang in there!

candm

Our SW did not need both spouses to be present at every meeting (though we were able to anyway). Could you talk to her and see if his absence is ok?