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Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
Moms of 2 - when did you feel like you had a "routine?"
I know it's still really early for us. Just looking to see when I can start to feel a bit more sane again!! 
Nora Judith 7/2/06 Miles Chauncey 4/20/09 born with Trisomy 21 - Down syndrome
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Re: Moms of 2 - when did you feel like you had a "routine?"
Do you want me to lie? Or tell you the truth?
8 weeks is a magic # for some reason. Was with both of my kids. I felt somewhat "normal" again and like there was a little bit of the weight lifted off of my shoulders.
Cam, though, threw me for a loop for most of the first year of her life. I would feel we were in a routine and BAM -- it would change. And just as quickly, it would change back. And then change again. She kept me guessing for a good 12-15 months. Then it took another 6 months or so to come out of the sleep deprived, mentally drained fog that I was in. Man, I was a MESS for her first 18 months. I'm doing good now though. I think --- ask me again tomorrow!
So, I will say 8 weeks is a good guestimate to when you can start feeling like "Ok, this little being (Miles) is part of us and feels like he always has been." There is a certain rhythm established then. But routine --- well, that is ever changing when you have two!
Bottom line -- YOU CAN DO IT! I know you can!
Honestly....most days, we are still not there. lol
BUT, it is 100 times better than it was in those early weeks!
I am not really big on a routine anyway. But, now that Noah is starting to have more of a predictable sleeping pattern, things are falling into place a little better.
Girl, I freaking love your one liners! You are DAMN FUNNY!!!
For the first 6 weeks, I had someone with me at all times. This is the second week that I've been by myself. I was freaked out the first day, but after that it's been fairly easy. My husband travels out of town at least one night a week, so my mil has spent the night with us when he is out of town. That has been really nice. Logan has mdo twice a week, so I get a few hours those days to run errands and such. Today, we (me, L and M) conquered Target! That was huge for me because I've been worried about the logistics of going in a store with both kids. Logan rode in the buggy and I wore miles in the beco. Both kids were great.
As far as a routine: I get up at about 6am and feed Miles. Then I take a shower and do makeup/hair all before Logan wakes up. So I am ready to leave the house before she is even awake. I've done this long before Miles was born. If I don't shower and stuff before Logan gets up, I won't get a shower until she goes to bed. I feel like that really helps me to prepare for the day. I guess I wouldn't really say we have a routine or schedule. We more or less take each day as it comes. I think that's all you can do with a newborn and toddler!
Well, I think the first month we were in 'survival' mode. That means me sleeping on the couch anytime I could catch 15 minutes of sleep, accepting help from anyone and everyone.
We started a schedule around a month, but it didn't last long. Not sure how much of a 'routine' it is if it is always changing?
We have been on the same routine (meaning, nap/eating schedules) for about 3 months now
There's supposed to be a routine???
The first couple of months are a total blur. But #2 wasn't on a regular nap schedule for a few months, so I just kind of winged it until then. Hang in there. Just do survival mode.
I think my routine started to develop right about when DS was 4 months old. I got him napping at regular intervals in his crib and could time out their naps together. Around 7 months, things got easier....and with each month it was better. Hang in there!
Thanks. It's sad to admit, but most days I feel like "funny" is all I've got to offer.