S/O: Father's Day for fathers to be?

thatgirlang

How many of your SO's expect to be celebrated on Father's Day? I am curious as to how often men feel they are dads before they are in the same way that women do. In the post below, people talked about being moms now because they are pregnant and taking care of the child inside them. What about the men? What are yours saying or have you talked about it?

alexisz523

I think my DH deserves something for dealing with my biitchiness over the past few weeks I do sweet things for him all of the time though so maybe I'll take him for ice cream, this way we both win!

yale

Neither of us are comfortable celebrating this year.

suscq

I have to remind DH about Father's Day every year and I always buy FIL's gift so I doubt it will even register for DH.  HOWEVER, I already have a Father's Day gift for DH because I already think of him as a father.

mrsekins

I will probably acknowledge the fact that he will be a father, but unless he celebrates me on mother's day, that'll be it. (I don't expect gifts or anything yet this mother's day)

thatgirlang

A.C.Soup!!!:

I think my DH deserves something for dealing with my biitchiness over the past few weeks I do sweet things for him all of the time though so maybe I'll take him for ice cream, this way we both win!

I am sure he does deserve something but what does that have to do with Father's Day? You can show him you appreciate him anytime, KWIM?

browneyes_24b

DH asked me to order his dad's Father's day gift lastnight.  I don't think he's even considered celebrating it for himself. 

TiffanyHenning

I think all he wants is sex. Any excuse for sex.

DanielsWife

DH says he's not expecting anything - just like I say - but I know it would really make him feel good to have at least a father-to-be card for Father's Day. He feels somewhat detached from Allie as it is - since he can't feel her moving yet, and hasn't been acutely aware of her from day one - and is so excited to become a father, particularly since we didn't know if I could even get pregnant due to PCOS and Endo. I know that he feels awkward about this pregnancy b/c of his lack of "direct involvement," so I'd like to do something to make sure he feels special too.

And you should have seen how he reacted to what I wrote in his birthday card this morning - about how lucky Allie is that he's her father-to-be. He almost cried. ?

rrotem

My DH doesn't want to celebrate Father's Day until the baby is born.

dimake

I sent my DH a father's day card when he was away at basic training - it was also how I let him know the gender of our first daughter.  I don't remember what we did last year for actual father's day, though!

fozzy923

when I was pregnant with #1, I didn't get a mother's day present, but I got a father's day present for DH.  He loves cigars so I bought him a really nice humidor and some of his favorite nice cigars with a note saying how I can't wait to fill it up for all of the celebration milestones we have to look forward to.  He didnt' expect a gift and it made him feel pretty bad he didnt' get me anything for mother's day, but it all worked out in my favor because I got a great gift when the baby arrived :-)

margeincharge2

My DH does not see us as parents until the baby's born. He says we are "parents-to-be." So he does not see a point in celebrating father's day/mother's day for us yet.

I see his point but at the same time I have a life inside me that could possibly live outside the womb if (God forbid) I went into early labor. And, if anything happened to him now, I would consider myself his mother. So it's a bit of a semantic argument really.

I doubt we're doing anything for mother's day or father's day for either of us.

MrsBeckO

We both agreed that we should hold off on the big celebrations until we have an "outside baby" but we don't want to negate the fact that we have a baby now, just one that requires a much different level of care than one on the outside.?

We tried for 8 months to get pregnant and were so ecstatic when we were?successful?and then we went through HELL the first 19ish weeks with me being in and out of the hospital with HG -- so we agreed to acknowledge both holidays by planning a spa day together and getting pampered with couple's massages and a mani-pedi for me.?

He will probably get me a card for the day of, and I plan to do the same for him - just to tell him how wonderful it has been to watch him prepare for fatherhood and how much me and baby appreciate his thoughtfulness and hard work. ?

cstw

I am getting DH a "Daddy Diaper Bag" filled with cool goodies and will look for a book about places dads can take their kids in our area to include in it. I am also taking him for the biggest, juiciest burger since I've been trying to eat healthy for the LO and he's the one with cravings. Finally, he can have ESPN all day and I won't complain. I hope he likes it!

thatgirlang

MrsBeck- Thanks for that perspective!