Girls who are not planning to BF...

AfterAll

why did you come to this decision?

I don't have any real reason for wanting to breast feed other than "I want to"... so is it just that you "don't want to"?

I am genuinely curious about this.

taelir

*sigh*

These discussions generally don't go well either.  Just letting you know ahead of time.

 

LeelaH

First off, it weirds me out.  Second, I don't want my baby totally attached to me for that first month or so.  When I came home from the hospital with my daughter, I was so exhausted.  I don't know what I would have done if my husband wasn't able to get up with her and feed her.

 

AfterAll

taelir:

*sigh*

These discussions generally don't go well either.  Just letting you know ahead of time.

 

I don't see why, I am not being argumentative, I am just curious, I have no real reason for wanting to so I thought someone could give me insight on not wanting to.

BlairWaldorf

A mixture of a few things:

1)  I had a breast reduction a little over a year ago.  I have no feeling in my breasts or nipples at all, nor are they responding to the pregnancy yet...so I will be shocked if they "get their act together" in order to lactate.  & yes, I know about BFAR.org.

2)  I don't have a job that I can pump at & I may have to return at 6 weeks.  Stressing for 6 weeks on whether or not my post-reduction breasts will make milk is not worth it.  Maybe if I could breastfeed for a year, but with only 6 weeks...nah.

3)  I simply don't want to.  I know me & my stress levels.  I know that the stress of my supply, being able to feed the babe enough, etc will send me over the edge.  I also adore the ease of formula in public, for daycare, & the ability for Nate to feed a bottle at any time.

dswed0407

I plan on breast feeding, or at least trying to, and people don?t ask me why I plan on doing it. I don?t understand why people feel the need to ask those who aren't, why. It a personal choice for everyone. To each their own!

taelir

AfterAll:

taelir:

*sigh*

These discussions generally don't go well either.  Just letting you know ahead of time.

 

I don't see why, I am not being argumentative, I am just curious, I have no real reason for wanting to so I thought someone could give me insight on not wanting to.

I didn't say you were being argumentative.

But typically, one person will state their reasoning for not wanting to.  Sometimes comments get made like "it weirds me out" (which is a perfectly fine way to think, to each their own)....and then they get jumped on.

It generally has nothing to do with the OP wanting to be curious - I understand the curiosity - but it's just one of those topics that never usually ends well.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

AfterAll:

I don't see why, I am not being argumentative, 

No one is saying you are, but the responses tend to be...

Anyhoo, since you asked, and since I don't care what people think, I'll tell you that no, I am not planning on breast feeding. However, I am planning on pumping. My logic? I want DH to be a part of this (feeding the baby) as well and I don't want to feel chained to the LO. Are my reasons good? Well, they are to me.

AfterAll

taelir:

AfterAll:

taelir:

*sigh*

These discussions generally don't go well either.  Just letting you know ahead of time.

 

I don't see why, I am not being argumentative, I am just curious, I have no real reason for wanting to so I thought someone could give me insight on not wanting to.

I didn't say you were being argumentative.

But typically, one person will state their reasoning for not wanting to.  Sometimes comments get made like "it weirds me out" (which is a perfectly fine way to think, to each their own)....and then they get jumped on.

It generally has nothing to do with the OP wanting to be curious - I understand the curiosity - but it's just one of those topics that never usually ends well.

Haha well I am hoping for the best ;-)

It seriously weirds me out too and I plan to try to overcome that to breast feed anyway, haha.

bim38106

I have a friend who didn't w/ #2 because she had a rough time BF her first. That and she was going back to work 6 weeks PP and didn't want to deal w/ pumping.

Her sister didn't because she didn't want her boobs to get any bigger (36DD). Not sure about that one..? 

Both told me just to tell me, not because I asked.

irys09

BlairWaldorf:

A mixture of a few things:

1)  I had a breast reduction a little over a year ago.  I have no feeling in my breasts or nipples at all, nor are they responding to the pregnancy yet...so I will be shocked if they "get their act together" in order to lactate.  & yes, I know about BFAR.org.

 

huh. Is that a pretty common thing to have happen? The no feeling thing? 

kristin329

I am not.  I know it's supposed to be natural but I feel very odd about it. I tried with my daughter and it was very painful.  It's not simple and easy for all.  It just is not the right decision for me.

sam19

My SIL was uncomfortable with breastfeeding. I think if the mom is uncomfortable then she shouldn't do it. It would just make the experience bad for both mom and baby. I think women need to do what is right for them and that is why a lot of women may not breastfeed.

BlairWaldorf

irys09:

BlairWaldorf:

A mixture of a few things:

1)  I had a breast reduction a little over a year ago.  I have no feeling in my breasts or nipples at all, nor are they responding to the pregnancy yet...so I will be shocked if they "get their act together" in order to lactate.  & yes, I know about BFAR.org.

 

huh. Is that a pretty common thing to have happen? The no feeling thing? 

yep.  Very common.

But I knew it going into the surgery.  Nate & I both knew that in a way, I was choosing surgery over breastfeeding.  But it was a decision that both of us were comfy with.

Aliliv

hmmmm........every fiber of my being is telling me to not bother trying this time - but, I will try for a bit, but I'm hoping to mostly pump.  I'm thinking that I'll end up giving formula within 2 months (I am trying to push the negative thoughs from my head....)     Reasons:  I don't like it.  There is nothing about it that makes me feel good (I know the point is not making ME feel good, but rather nutrition for baby, but whatever).   I see no reason to make myself depressed for several months, just so I can master it:)   For me, happy mommy = happy baby - but that's just for me, this in no way reflects how I feel about other's breastfeeding!

EnglishMajor03

Aliliv:

hmmmm........every fiber of my being is telling me to not bother trying this time - but, I will try for a bit, but I'm hoping to mostly pump.  I'm thinking that I'll end up giving formula within 2 months (I am trying to push the negative thoughs from my head....)     Reasons:  I don't like it.  There is nothing about it that makes me feel good (I know the point is not making ME feel good, but rather nutrition for baby, but whatever).   I see no reason to make myself depressed for several months, just so I can master it:)   For me, happy mommy = happy baby - but that's just for me, this in no way reflects how I feel about other's breastfeeding!

I plan to BF this time (fingers crossed), but ended up pumping for six months with DC #1 because of some medical issues.  But you're right- happy mom = happy baby and that should be one of the biggest determining factor.  If you don't want to BF, but try it's just going to make for miserable feedings and feelings of inadequacey.

techsan1298

I tried with #1 and it was the most miserable experience of my life. It hurt like hell and my nipples were cracking and bleeding the entire time. I cried everytime I had to feed her. It was awful. I'm not going through that again.

dairygirl19

1) I have a minimal desire to do so. I know it's better for the baby, better antibodies etc. But I know many FF babies and they're all fine.

2) I live and work on a farm. There is no maternity leave in this place. I'll get a couple days to adjust and then I'll be back outside (doing easier work, but still outside). It's just easier for me to mix a bottle and feed it, or have MIL or DH or someone feed it if I can't at the moment.

3) Also, as I get back into the swing of things I'll have a babysitter for awhile everyday...it's just easier to FF with that. And I can imagine I'll be tied up in the barn with a hungry baby at the same time.

Basically, it's just a matter of what's best for me. Selfish I know but happy mom is a happy baby.

GiniMcGlothin

dairygirl19:

1) I have a minimal desire to do so. I know it's better for the baby, better antibodies etc. But I know many FF babies and they're all fine.

2) I live and work on a farm. There is no maternity leave in this place. I'll get a couple days to adjust and then I'll be back outside (doing easier work, but still outside). It's just easier for me to mix a bottle and feed it, or have MIL or DH or someone feed it if I can't at the moment.

3) Also, as I get back into the swing of things I'll have a babysitter for awhile everyday...it's just easier to FF with that. And I can imagine I'll be tied up in the barn with a hungry baby at the same time.

Basically, it's just a matter of what's best for me. Selfish I know but happy mom is a happy baby.

I don't think this is selfish at all.  I think only YOU can make the best decision for YOU and YOUR baby.  And I think it's more realistic than anything.  And if people are living in a dream world where everything is perfect and bfing goes wonderfully for everyone, then they are going to be disappointed.

pumpkinwife07

I agree with all those who say happy mom = happy baby! My Dr even told me the same thing.

Anyway, I found this article to be interesting:

https://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200904/case-against-breastfeeding

Choco80

dswed0407:

I plan on breast feeding, or at least trying to,?and people don?t ask me why I plan on doing it. I don?t understand why people feel the need to ask those who aren't, why. It a personal choice for everyone. To each their own!

Very well said!?

AfterAll

dswed0407:

I plan on breast feeding, or at least trying to, and people don?t ask me why I plan on doing it. I don?t understand why people feel the need to ask those who aren't, why. It a personal choice for everyone. To each their own!

Because I was curious, no need to answer if you don't feel like doing so!